MessyDreamer
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I'm not sure if this is OCD or not. I've tried talking about it before... I've tried talking to a therapist about what I think might be OCD, but he didn't seem to take it very seriously because I guess I wasn't able to express what I was really going through. I'm rambling... sorry.
I have a lot of germ issues and things that might be OCD, but I want to talk about here is the fear of kissing.
Hm, I can be really into someone or even love them, but when I'm about to kiss them... I just freak out. Or I kiss them, but after that I'm like, "What if I got a disease? I'm NEVER kissing ANYONE again." And then I want to erase the kiss from my head and I wish I could turn back time. What if I get a germ or even HIV or any serious disease because of a KISS?
I broke up with my ex-girlfriend because of that and other issues, but mainly because of that. I really love her and I want to make things right with her, but I just can't. She's been very supportive and she wants me to open up to her and tell her what my issues are... why I can't be with her... but I don't know how to tell her. Won't it hurt her? Like, "are you grossed out by me?!" I don't know.
I've only kissed two people in my life... in a way, because I'm very romantic, but mostly because of my OCD or whatever that is. I think I only managed to kiss the first girl because I was really in love, like, crazy in love... it was pure passion... it was insane. Like a disease. I was in some state of... IDK, I wasn't myself.
And with this last girl that I really love... I only managed to kiss her on the lips, no tongue, and I felt really depressed and disgusted with myself after that. I even had to wash my lips with soap when I got home... I thought that maybe, if I washed it, I'd get rid of her germs... and it would be like the kiss never happened. Part of me wanted to forget that kiss ever happened, but the other part of me really wanted (and still wants) it to go away.
Before we kissed, I'd pay attention to her actions... for instance, we she was drinking coffee with a straw, and she kept touching the bottom of it... the same part that was touching her lips/mouth as she drank it. And I kept thinking, "SHE JUST TOUCHED THE MONEY TO BUY IT AND NOW SHE'S PUTTING HER FINGERS IN THE STRAW... AND THE GERMS ARE GOING RIGHT INTO HER MOUTH... IS SHE CRAZY OR WHAT?" I have the same kind of thought everyday, with different people and situations. For instance, yesterday a girl in my class asked to borrow a pain, and I got really pissed (of course I didn't let it show though) because... what if she didn't wash her hands? "She saw me with the pen. I can't tell her I won't let her borrow it. But if she didn't wash her hands, when I put it back in my backpack, the whole pocket will be contaminated. And my hands, too."
The other day my dad touched his nose and held the remote (ew, gross... yeah). The next day, I'd hold the remote with a paper to change the channel so that I wouldn't touch it...
There are days I don't even know what to eat and I give up on eating things I want to eat or eat at all at that moment because it's like I can't grab any germ-free food. Like... I take the bread off the sack, but it touches that part that's sort of open (I don't know how to explain it), and I'm like, "What if there are germs in it?" Or I touch the sack, hold the bread, and I start wondering how clean the sack is... and I give up on eating it.
It's the same drama when my mom's hair is in the food. Or when I watch her cook, no matter how clean she is. No one is ever clean enough when it comes to food.
Or I'm eating bread or something else and my hand slightly touches it, and I don't think my hand is really clean because I touched the sack of bread after washing my hands or something... so I cut the part of the breath off... or I just throw it all out.
Don't even get me started on eating out... when I start to think about it...
There are days it gets worse. There are days I manage to control it. But everyday I have those thoughts. The more "depressed" I am, the worst it gets. And the happier I am, the better it gets.
Is it OCD? Can anyone here relate? And how do I fix myself?
Thanks...
I have a lot of germ issues and things that might be OCD, but I want to talk about here is the fear of kissing.
Hm, I can be really into someone or even love them, but when I'm about to kiss them... I just freak out. Or I kiss them, but after that I'm like, "What if I got a disease? I'm NEVER kissing ANYONE again." And then I want to erase the kiss from my head and I wish I could turn back time. What if I get a germ or even HIV or any serious disease because of a KISS?
I broke up with my ex-girlfriend because of that and other issues, but mainly because of that. I really love her and I want to make things right with her, but I just can't. She's been very supportive and she wants me to open up to her and tell her what my issues are... why I can't be with her... but I don't know how to tell her. Won't it hurt her? Like, "are you grossed out by me?!" I don't know.
I've only kissed two people in my life... in a way, because I'm very romantic, but mostly because of my OCD or whatever that is. I think I only managed to kiss the first girl because I was really in love, like, crazy in love... it was pure passion... it was insane. Like a disease. I was in some state of... IDK, I wasn't myself.
And with this last girl that I really love... I only managed to kiss her on the lips, no tongue, and I felt really depressed and disgusted with myself after that. I even had to wash my lips with soap when I got home... I thought that maybe, if I washed it, I'd get rid of her germs... and it would be like the kiss never happened. Part of me wanted to forget that kiss ever happened, but the other part of me really wanted (and still wants) it to go away.
Before we kissed, I'd pay attention to her actions... for instance, we she was drinking coffee with a straw, and she kept touching the bottom of it... the same part that was touching her lips/mouth as she drank it. And I kept thinking, "SHE JUST TOUCHED THE MONEY TO BUY IT AND NOW SHE'S PUTTING HER FINGERS IN THE STRAW... AND THE GERMS ARE GOING RIGHT INTO HER MOUTH... IS SHE CRAZY OR WHAT?" I have the same kind of thought everyday, with different people and situations. For instance, yesterday a girl in my class asked to borrow a pain, and I got really pissed (of course I didn't let it show though) because... what if she didn't wash her hands? "She saw me with the pen. I can't tell her I won't let her borrow it. But if she didn't wash her hands, when I put it back in my backpack, the whole pocket will be contaminated. And my hands, too."
The other day my dad touched his nose and held the remote (ew, gross... yeah). The next day, I'd hold the remote with a paper to change the channel so that I wouldn't touch it...
There are days I don't even know what to eat and I give up on eating things I want to eat or eat at all at that moment because it's like I can't grab any germ-free food. Like... I take the bread off the sack, but it touches that part that's sort of open (I don't know how to explain it), and I'm like, "What if there are germs in it?" Or I touch the sack, hold the bread, and I start wondering how clean the sack is... and I give up on eating it.
It's the same drama when my mom's hair is in the food. Or when I watch her cook, no matter how clean she is. No one is ever clean enough when it comes to food.
Or I'm eating bread or something else and my hand slightly touches it, and I don't think my hand is really clean because I touched the sack of bread after washing my hands or something... so I cut the part of the breath off... or I just throw it all out.
Don't even get me started on eating out... when I start to think about it...
There are days it gets worse. There are days I manage to control it. But everyday I have those thoughts. The more "depressed" I am, the worst it gets. And the happier I am, the better it gets.
Is it OCD? Can anyone here relate? And how do I fix myself?
Thanks...