Falling into loopholes

[Ren Koutaisou]

I am not in school right now and my hours have been cut at work. There are some things I want to do but I sometimes stick to staying inside and playing video games even when I know I don't want to be doing it.

I do the same thing every day at home which is train pokemon. I enjoy it to an extent, but I know that you only have one life to live and I want to be out and about, helping people, meeting new people, learning to talk better, and stuff like that.

But unless I'm going to work, I might not shower and sometimes don't even brush my teeth just because I know I won't go out.

I've asked my family members multiple times to either bring it to my attention, yell at me, splash water on me, etc when I cuss or use the computer too much, but they seem like they aren't aware of anything themselves either.

I really don't have any friends and don't get calls. I'm not expecting sympathy from this, just adding it to the list because I also don't get the benefit of hanging out with people outside the house.

There are many cycles of crap I've fallen into in this house. I don't have a clue how to break them and I can't continue this way because it seems the consequences will get dire with time.

I've taken up new hobbies and got bored with them , as they are all indoor hobbies such as studying kana and hiragana.

What is something to do to break the circles I've fallen into? Any little thing will help, and be much appreciated. Anything at all, I need advice big time.

 

[BlackKids]

I find cycling is great. Gets you outta the house, its enjoyable plus its exercise. Oh and you should start brushing your teeth ::

 

[dooby-duck]

I know what you mean. It is really difficult to push yourself out of the comfort zone. It is very easy to get stuck into the same routine, and can seem hard at first when you try to break it and try new things. The truth is though, and I know all too well that you can only live a very limited life inside your home and inside your head. Sure you can socialise on the internet, but I've never had any look making friends / girlfriends stuck in my room. This is because I rarely go anywhere where people hang out and socialise ( for obvious reasons, this is an SA site after all).

I need to push myself out of my comfort zone a bit and get the confidence to try new things. When I have done this I have mostly found it is a lot easier than I have thought. It does take a while for me to get comfortable doing things, but it has almost always been worth the effort. Funnily I took up cycling as well. I started going out once a week, and found it slightly daunting at first, but now go out every day. I have the occasional anxious moment, but nothing I can't deal with.

I should really start working on some social situations really, as I still avoid people as much as possible. I think the key is to do little things often in order to build up to bigger, better things in the future.