Chilling__Echo said:i believe it's overcomable.
Sean said:. I'm sorry taws but you WILL fail in anything you try, it's just a part of life. It isn't the end of the world if you fail, everyone fails sometimes.
nicola_maire said:i think ur right, alota people scared to break out of their normal ways, in a way u learn to excpet it, i think people r to scared to fail
ColdFury said:I've tried a lot, but nothing has worked.
taws said:ive given up on it, i find that if i dont try, then i cant fail
4myself said:I see posting in here and in other chatrooms as the first step towards overcoming shyness. Because I feel its easier to talk to people online than in real life, once I am comfortable talking about myself in here then I can try it in the 'real world'. So in answer to the question, yes I am trying now.
i tried many patterns... you have to change the pattern and try to avoid things of the other pattern.
ColdFury said:i tried many patterns... you have to change the pattern and try to avoid things of the other pattern.
Explain what you mean by patterns. I've tried all sorts of therapies.
None of this "wear a smile" crap solves the fact I get massive panic attacks being within 10 feet of a stranger, no matter what I think.
PhantomPod said:I got a book called "Painfully Shy" that's helped some, and also this site: http://www.angelfire.com/super2/overcomingshyness/index.html has helped A LOT.
Falling said:ColdFury said:i tried many patterns... you have to change the pattern and try to avoid things of the other pattern.
Explain what you mean by patterns. I've tried all sorts of therapies.
None of this "wear a smile" crap solves the fact I get massive panic attacks being within 10 feet of a stranger, no matter what I think.
if u're trying to build a conversation with someone and you see that isnt working... try to use another "style" i dont know how exactly explain it. if the method u're using isnt ging that good... changed to another form to build up a conversation. any yes when you "wear a smile" ur giving positive energy to the other person... i know that soemtimes dont work at all. in last year school i used to try to smile to everyone but did't build a freindship... but when you smile to someone you are acting friendly.
and about feeling panick when you are some where there are many people, well the only way to solve it is to challenge the situation... so if you wear a top that you feel that everyone is looking at you... continue wearing it. last month a got a social phobia while i was walking and every one was looking at my new shoes... it had something for sure but i dont know what was, i decided to wear it over and over again so by time now i dont mind when some one looks at my shoes or for example if i see everone looking at my shirt just becasue there are some words on it... i used to wear it no more... but now i challnge my self. i used to die when im the centre of attantion... but now not that much. is useless running and hiding form problems.