Ever spend a birthday alone?

[dying_days]

This will be a pretty important b-day, but unfortunately I will have to spend it alone, which ofcourse makes me all the more sad and lonely. I realize that most people don't want to admit that they have had to spend a b-day alone, but I will maybe feel less alone if I know someone else had to go through this too.

 

[miss_moose]

Happy Birthday xxx

Aawww *hugs* I'm sorry you have had to spend your birthday alone, i spent my 19th and 20th birthday alone, it was nothing special.
I know it's so hard because you feel you should be celebrating and marking the occasion in some way.
On my 22nd it was just me and my boyfriend (well me on my own all day until 7pm) and i got so depressed, even when he came home i just kept crying because i felt i should be out with friends and family celebrating, even though i dont have any friends and i hate social gatherings and pubs because they make me have panic attacks, i think when its your birthday it makes you realise how alone you actually are when you dont get many cards. Any other day, it's hard, but when you've actually got proof that you are friendless or dont have many friends because of the lack of cards and presents it just emphasises the lonliness.

I think you'll feel better the day after yur birthday because it's just like anyother day, the depressions still there if it was before, but it's easier to deal with that it is on your birthday.

loads of love and hugs, mooosey xxx

 

[JonnyA]

Happy birthday .

I spent alone every birthday from my 19th to my 26th. I was at university and had no friends there. Each year I spoke to my mum on the phone, but none of my classmates knew it was my birthday. The other birthdays from my 10th onwards I spent alone with my parents. I had a few social birthdays in primary school.

As an adult, being alone on my birthday signified nothing bad to me. I thought friends were worthless. Now I've changed my mind - my 31st birthday is likely to be the first on which I feel alone.

 

[seekingpeace]

Best wishes on your birthday!

Yeah, I've spent more than one birthday alone and it always sucks. On my 19th (ancient history, I'm afraid), my parents went out of town and my "friends" all went out somewhere together while I sat at home because I wasn't invited. That pretty much ranked as the worst birthday I've ever had. Most of the other times I had a choice about being alone but that day I just felt abandoned.

At least with birthdays it's fairly easy to forget for most of the day that it is supposed to be something to celebrate. For me, spending Christmas alone is the worst experience in the world. That's when I really wish my life was different.

You aren't alone though, you have us!

 

[MarCPatt]

Yes, I had a couple of those lonely b-days myself in the past.

Happy B-day. I wish you the best and hope that you have a better year.

 

[SongOfSongs]

Happy Birthday.

 

[loucat]

I,ve had a few birthdays on my own, it does make you feel a bit miserable, or in my case resentful at not having many friends! that's the hardest bit i guess

 

[black_mamba]

This will be a pretty important b-day, but unfortunately I will have to spend it alone, which ofcourse makes me all the more sad and lonely. I realize that most people don't want to admit that they have had to spend a b-day alone, but I will maybe feel less alone if I know someone else had to go through this too.

I've spent many birthdays alone. Do you feel better now? :wink: You should treat yourself - no law saying you can't buy your own presents.

 

[IceLad]

You should treat yourself - no law saying you can't buy your own presents.

I agree. You should definitely splash out on yourself! Hope you had a good b-day! 8)

 

[MarCPatt]

Heh, the funny thing is that I still buy my own presents. My family just forgets about me, and my husband, well, I don't think he forgets, he just never knows what to get me. So I end up always getting my own presents. In a way it is better, I always like what I get myself. No need for returns and such. :lol:

 

[jayo]

Happy Birthday!

Perhaps look forward five years and visulaise a birthday with family and friends - make that your target!

 

[savage_beagle]

you bet your sad ass i have and still do!

yep....my childhood birthdays were kinda shitty. My mom did her best (uneduacated,immigrant woman-poor english) to keep her boys as happy as she could, considered she was married to an asswipe. I just gave up celebrating my own birthdays at about age 13...i was tired of brothers ''forgetting'', and my old man ignoring it. I learned from early on, it wasnt a date to be remembered, just turned older, no fuss. Guess what?? still alive and kicking---stop feeling sorry for yourself...treat yourself if you wish...or just get on with life and dont wallow in self pity. Funny thing tho...a few times i had given the dog a birthday celebration....extra hugs and praise, special dinner/treat, lots of play time in the park...and a few ''who loves ya beagle!? who who whooo...me..thats who!!!''. HE is in heavan the past 5 years, i hope he remembers my love and distracts saint peter at the gates when i (hopefully) show up at my turn.