My mum always forced me to go to my grandpa's birthday party because otherwise I wouldn't see no one of the family. The last 2 times we had one of those 'parties' i didn't go. Short after that my grandfather died, I didn't see him for 2 years. Last time I saw him was when they showed his body before the funeral. He was the only one I saw for at least once a year until I got too scared to go to one of those family reunions. Now I don't see any family at all, not my mums family, and never did my dad's family. He doesn't have contact with his family either except for 1 brother, but due to other reasons. I didn't like any of them anyway .. I just feel guilty that I didn't visit my grandfather more often, SA or not ..