ridicule
Well-known member
Time for some intelligent conversation that isn't at all whiny or so personal, so there's your warning.
I think what a lot of our social problems are linked to is the fact that we are people who have let our emotions rule us. That causes us to get locked in fear in certain situations. Well nary I say to that!
Often times, I learn how to act from seeing how NOT to act and doing the opposite. For instance, when I was but a wee little lad, I used to witness my parents fighting all the time, throwing things and yelling, not sure about physically fighting though. That continued with every one of my mother's boyfriend after that. Obviously, as a kid, we don't like that, and a few outcomes can come from it. Either we go "Well that's how adults handle problems" and we essentially embrace it. Or we say "That's just stupid, I'll do the opposite". Unless you are wrong, every single problem you face will have a solution if you keep a cool head.
Let's say (for all you girls out there) that you fancied me and I found you pretty, but didn't fancy you back. And then I called another girl who is your rival pretty, when you asked. About 90% of girls I talked to would get enraged over that. Was anything I said there comparative? With a couple more questions, you could find out more about how I felt on that.
An example for the guys. Guy is in your face accusing you of..... something horrible, use your imagination. Normally, especially if he's debasing your character or attacking your pride, that's when a fight happens. If you are right and your ideas are right, there is no reason to fight. I was in an argument with my brother and it almost came to blows. He was aggressive and violent because his ideas were worse than mine (i.e. he was wrong).
The point of all this is that, whatever problem arises in our lives: school, work, social gatherings...... okay, maybe not family, but everything else, can be solved without getting upset, emotional, nervous, anxious, as long as we think it out.
Well, I guess for the comment and interaction portion of this, I want you to give me a serious situation where you've gotten emotional, AND you were in the right and not in the wrong, and I'll tell you the best way to handle it. Or maybe not best, but how I would, how you can bypass being emotional and overcoming it.
I think what a lot of our social problems are linked to is the fact that we are people who have let our emotions rule us. That causes us to get locked in fear in certain situations. Well nary I say to that!
Often times, I learn how to act from seeing how NOT to act and doing the opposite. For instance, when I was but a wee little lad, I used to witness my parents fighting all the time, throwing things and yelling, not sure about physically fighting though. That continued with every one of my mother's boyfriend after that. Obviously, as a kid, we don't like that, and a few outcomes can come from it. Either we go "Well that's how adults handle problems" and we essentially embrace it. Or we say "That's just stupid, I'll do the opposite". Unless you are wrong, every single problem you face will have a solution if you keep a cool head.
Let's say (for all you girls out there) that you fancied me and I found you pretty, but didn't fancy you back. And then I called another girl who is your rival pretty, when you asked. About 90% of girls I talked to would get enraged over that. Was anything I said there comparative? With a couple more questions, you could find out more about how I felt on that.
An example for the guys. Guy is in your face accusing you of..... something horrible, use your imagination. Normally, especially if he's debasing your character or attacking your pride, that's when a fight happens. If you are right and your ideas are right, there is no reason to fight. I was in an argument with my brother and it almost came to blows. He was aggressive and violent because his ideas were worse than mine (i.e. he was wrong).
The point of all this is that, whatever problem arises in our lives: school, work, social gatherings...... okay, maybe not family, but everything else, can be solved without getting upset, emotional, nervous, anxious, as long as we think it out.
Well, I guess for the comment and interaction portion of this, I want you to give me a serious situation where you've gotten emotional, AND you were in the right and not in the wrong, and I'll tell you the best way to handle it. Or maybe not best, but how I would, how you can bypass being emotional and overcoming it.
