don't you feel like?

[hermitt]

I think I tend to be lenient, nice and quiet because of my shyness. Don't you think some people take advantages on that? I feel like I'm walked all over time to time.

 

[the_secret_me]

yeah i know that feeling...its so hard to stand up to someone...and if i do it doesnt take much to make me back down, then i feel even more pathetic.
i dont like being seen as "nice" cos i dont think im that much nicer than the average person. sometimes i feel a bit fake, like when i cant express my real opinion. like i usually try to...but sometimes it just doesnt come out the way i intended

 

[Septor]

Unfortunately some people will take advantage of it but don't let it get you down not every one is like that.There's a lot of people that appreciate you for being nice.As hard as it is to see it sometimes.

 

[redlady]

So do i. But eventually i get to a point where i just can't take anymore and then i explode all over the person doing it to me.

 

[hermitt]

Well, I try to be 'nice'. Because afterall, trea others like how you want to be treated right? I guess I'm just feeling bit down today.

 

[Milooby]

Once someone was told to describe me in one word and they said polite. URGHH!!!

 

[Ernie]

I think I tend to be lenient, nice and quiet because of my shyness. Don't you think some people take advantages on that? I feel like I'm walked all over time to time.

Absolutely! And it's really important to listen to that feeling because some people do take advantage of it. Sometimes, even though you want to help out, you have to say no because he or she might, conscious or not, be taking advantage of you.

 

[cheerybiscuit]

Yes, they do. When I was very small, in elementary school, I used to do everything people asked of me. I don't talk. Not at all. I think they if I did what they said, at least people would think I'm not just a freak, but a nice freak. As time goes by, I figured that they're not thinking I'm nice, I am probably just stupid. I stopped being as nice. I learned how to say no. And then last year, this guy begged me to give my homework to him to copy, he promised me he will give me back. Uh-oh. Me being stupid again. :roll: I thought I'm being nice but I'm actually being stupid. That bastard, he didn't return it. Good thing the teacher is nice. There is a different between niceness and stupidity.

 

[sugaryberries]

Well, I try to be 'nice'. Because afterall, trea others like how you want to be treated right?>

I treat everyone I meet with kindness and not everyone is kind to me, so why bother with that philosophy?

I definitely believe that if you are shy or something like that people will take advantage of you, but it's not just because you are shy. The shyness just helps.

My friend was supposed to get a raise at her job and she *stupidly* didn't check her pay stub because she gets direct deposit, but after 5 months, she happened to glance at it and noticed that she hadn't been given the raise. She talked to her manager who kept avoiding her and not doing her job, but eventually fixed it after 5 weeks and the manager only gave her half of the back pay my friend was owed which was about $500 total.

Oh well, another life lesson.

 

[maggie]

I think I tend to be lenient, nice and quiet because of my shyness. Don't you think some people take advantages on that? I feel like I'm walked all over time to time.

hiya hermitt ....yeah...i tend to be the same way as you...especially at work, and i keep valid arguments or opinions to myself....instead of speaking up...cause i'm just too shy to speak my mind or defend myself.......and i do feel like a doormat lots of times....really really frustrates me! :evil:

 

[triceratops]

So do i. But eventually i get to a point where i just can't take anymore and then i explode all over the person doing it to me.

forget what this post is actually about and imagine you are reading a porn magazine...ha ha

 

[shyandnumb]

I think I tend to be lenient, nice and quiet because of my shyness. Don't you think some people take advantages on that? I feel like I'm walked all over time to time.

Well, if you were aloof and polite, you would be called cold or unfriendly. Some people will always take advantage of people who can be too nice or lenient for their own purposes. It just another thing that occurs in life. But, you could act a little tough if the situation calls for it. All that you have do is think selfishly of what you want to happen instead of giving in to the person.

 

[Oli025]

well in a way as dr phil (i know...) says,
you teach people how to treat you.

...if it makes sense

 

[Diluted_Acid]

^Definitly does make sense. Thats why we have to start respectin ourselves more, and demand more from others in order to show our self worth. If someone compliments you, thank them for it, and accept it, don't just question it defensively or walk away. Also if someone borrows alot from you, make sure they return, and also ask things from others too. During my early stages of high school i use to give money to everyone willingly, my lunch money . . . and it is only recently i've completely stopped. It's hard when people bully you into giving them money . . . . . especially the opposite sex , but you just have to learn to say no, and be assertive and clear cut.