Don't know what to do...

[CK23]

How do you act when you've been very lonely and then something gr8 happens for the very first time for you... Someone really cares for you, is very nice to you but cos of Social Anxiety you dont open up to them... What happens when you do open up, and the other person doesnt respond very openly... Do you choose to live all alone with no friends or do you respect that person, play according to their rules cos they have power over you... they have power cos they cared when you were invisible... Should you then keep quiet and pray for the friendship you made or should you take more risks exposing yourself to the danger of slipping into a 'loneliness coma' ..? :roll: :?

 

[moostachio]

I'm assuming you are asking this because this has happened to you so here is my advice:

Feel happy that something great happened to you and don't beat yourself up that you find it difficult to open up. Lots of people who don't have social anxiety have trouble opening up to people.

If you open up and the other person doesn't respond in the way that you had hoped, don't take it personally. Maybe they are nervous or shy or have some insecurities or issues themselves.

There will not be only one person in this world who will be nice to you so don't feel like they have "power over you" like you mentioned in your post. In fact, you should not give them such "power over you." You should think about it like, "do I want to be friends with that person?" instead of being at the mercy of whomever decides to be nice to you. You are a person too and you have worth.

I don't think you should choose to live all alone. You posting this shows that you do not want to. You are just afraid of being hurt. I would say, live your life, hope for the best, but if nothing happens don't beat yourself up about it.

Hope this helps and I wasn't too harsh. =0)

 

[CK23]

No you werent harsh at all... Thanks for writing.... I'm just soo passionate when it comes to working at the office and in studying... but i never feel good about it after i've done a good day's work... i always end up feeling that, i suck and people dont like me... this hurtful thought gets reinforced when people dont say a word to me all day... like i'm invisible... There are some people i've met that i admire so much but i cant take the risk cos i'm scared i'll mess things up... I take minor risks and then i run away in despair... their silence makes them more stronger than they already are... It's like they call all the shots and i have to comply... As far as old interactions go, i dont know i think God had all the crap reserved for me... I'm not dissing Him or anything i mean He's God... He has the right plan for me but i feel it's unfair to keep me hanging here like this... I dont have a clue how to get rid of this loneliness and 'living like a hermit' lifestyle...