Do you think you made yourself this way?

[oNecoOlazN]

or was it REALLY the society+the people?

I say it's 50/50 for me....in all reality.. :roll:

 

[Helyna]

I'd have to agree... a bit of both.

 

[JonnyD]

i think i'm borned with the tendecy and it has been "weaken" by my previous experiences...

 

[cannotbefound]

no way! i could never ever done something like this to myself..its all them.

 

[Hoth]

Society has given me plenty of chances and treated me fairly. It's a combination of genetic predisposition toward being scared of people and my personal choice to stop trying rather than suffer more.

 

[recluse]

The fact that i am a naturally shy and sensitive person is to blame. Everyone has had insults/been bullied at some point in their life but some people are just better at dealing with things. I do blame myself in one way for not making the effort to socialize.

 

[chris87]

I don't really know how I got this way. I feel like this is how I've always been...

 

[alex29]

its a bit of both

i tried hard. i still do. i have made a lot of progress but i still feel as though society and i are just too different socially to ever get along.

 

[joeljjison]

I'd say its society but that i'm unlucky enough to a bit weaker than most people in this aspect..

 

[PhantomPod]

Well, I say that I was definitely born like this, and I have always been very shy, since I was younger. However, I do think society and the fact that shyness is essentially seen as a weakness and a negative attribute, has caused me even more unease and anxiety in dealing with my innate character.

 

[biotech56]

In my opinion its the type of environment that we co-exist in. The way we react to things in ther past has made us shy.

 

[Vanialo28]

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[Dave_McFadden]

Who knows how much i made myself like this. I've spent the past year and a half trying to figure out how I've been affected by my parents' influence, or the influence of other authority figures, and what I can do about it. I sucked at sports when I was a kid, but I made the mistake of doing well on standardized tests. Well, if you are good at taking tests, you're SUPPOSED to suck at reindeer games, and you're SUPPOSED to be awkward in social situations, so nobody seemed to think this was a big deal. Even I believed this for years, and it's only recently that I've started to question it. At this point, blaming someone else really doesn't do me any good, so even if someone else "made me this way" it's my job to figure out how to unmake it.

 

[hawkman]

I think My behaviour came from my abusive alcoholic mother, being an only child , and being small in stature as a boy. School was hell, running through the woods to escape being beaten after school. Any way im on my way to a great recovery. My only real snag is fear of being judged, get 96% on written exams but the practical exams im failing miserably. Shakes, sweats, drymouth etc.