maybe-its-ocd
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Let me tell you a bit about myself. I've always had a history of over-thinking, over-analyzing, being overly emotional, and feeling that I "have" to do certain things. It started in high school with an eating disorder. Weird thing is that it was only partly about the weight, but mostly about the fact that controlling everything that touched my lips made me feel "right". For a while I ate the same exact things every day. It was always three bowls of perfectly measured cereal and milk, always the same kind of cereal. Doing this made me feel right with myself.... deviating from that wasn't an option for me. Luckily I got over that since I had become underweight and unhealthy, but other problems have taken place of it and are making me equally miserable.
I'll start with the smaller scale stuff. Hand writing anything is a nightmare for me because if the words are not written perfectly neatly I can't take it, and will erase the letter or word dozens of times until it feels right. If a paper of mine gets wrinkled or bent I have extreme anxiety.... I can't tolerate things that are not straight with clean lines. I'm a college student, and bubbling in scantron tests is horrible because I focus too much on how perfectly bubbled in each answer is. If it doesn't look clean I feel VERY anxious and have trouble moving through the test. Now on to bigger stuff...
My mind is NEVER at rest. I am always worrying about something and analyzing situations to death. I am controlled by the "what ifs" of life. If there is a negative possibility to be found, you can be sure I will find it and will worry about it until I'm in uncontrollable tears. When I met my boyfriend it was during winter break and we had more time to talk. When we started school and the communication naturally lessened, I could not get it out of my head that he perhaps has lost interest. I check my phone probably 50 times a day to see if there are any new messages from him.... I wish I could leave the phone alone for a while and not think about checking it but I always succumb. No matter how many times my boyfriend tells me he loves me and nothing has changed between us, my worrying continues. One HUGE thing with me is asking for reassurance. I ask people for reassurance over and over and over again, and while it usually satisfies me for a few moments, I'm right back at square one soon after.
Let me try to explain how this all feels: If I get a worry in my head I feel as though I must have the solution IMMEDIATELY. If I'm trying to get reassurance from someone and they cant deal with it at the moment my anxiety goes completely through the roof and I literally feel that I can't handle it. I blame myself CONSTANTLY... if something has changed that I perceive to be negative I normally think it's my fault. And once I think something is my fault I automatically feel that the situation is broken and unfixable.... like my relationship for example. Right now I'm thinking that maybe my relationship has suffered from my worrying, and ironically, that is something I am endlessly worrying about! Do you see the cycle? My life is an endless cycle of worrying about things, then worrying about the fact that other people worry about my worrying..... Craziness.
Most of the time I just want to grab my head and shake it... ask it why the heck it has to be this way. Why can't I just go with the flow like a normal person? Why do I constantly worry about things that probably will not even happen, going from one thing to another, driving the people in my life crazy? My boyfriend told me today that the amount of my worrying gets overwhelming. Bear in mind I'm only about 3 months into this new relationship and my boyfriend is a real catch.... I don't want to lose him over this if there is a way to control it or stop it. I don't know if I have OCD. What I do know is that my life is controlled by anxious thoughts.... all day every day. I must also point out that my brother has been diagnosed with OCD and takes meds for it. I've heard it runs in families.... but I'm not certain I have it. For a little while I thought perhaps I had depression because I cry so often...
I'm seeing a counselor this Friday... but if anyone has any comments they would be appreciated. Thanks.
I'll start with the smaller scale stuff. Hand writing anything is a nightmare for me because if the words are not written perfectly neatly I can't take it, and will erase the letter or word dozens of times until it feels right. If a paper of mine gets wrinkled or bent I have extreme anxiety.... I can't tolerate things that are not straight with clean lines. I'm a college student, and bubbling in scantron tests is horrible because I focus too much on how perfectly bubbled in each answer is. If it doesn't look clean I feel VERY anxious and have trouble moving through the test. Now on to bigger stuff...
My mind is NEVER at rest. I am always worrying about something and analyzing situations to death. I am controlled by the "what ifs" of life. If there is a negative possibility to be found, you can be sure I will find it and will worry about it until I'm in uncontrollable tears. When I met my boyfriend it was during winter break and we had more time to talk. When we started school and the communication naturally lessened, I could not get it out of my head that he perhaps has lost interest. I check my phone probably 50 times a day to see if there are any new messages from him.... I wish I could leave the phone alone for a while and not think about checking it but I always succumb. No matter how many times my boyfriend tells me he loves me and nothing has changed between us, my worrying continues. One HUGE thing with me is asking for reassurance. I ask people for reassurance over and over and over again, and while it usually satisfies me for a few moments, I'm right back at square one soon after.
Let me try to explain how this all feels: If I get a worry in my head I feel as though I must have the solution IMMEDIATELY. If I'm trying to get reassurance from someone and they cant deal with it at the moment my anxiety goes completely through the roof and I literally feel that I can't handle it. I blame myself CONSTANTLY... if something has changed that I perceive to be negative I normally think it's my fault. And once I think something is my fault I automatically feel that the situation is broken and unfixable.... like my relationship for example. Right now I'm thinking that maybe my relationship has suffered from my worrying, and ironically, that is something I am endlessly worrying about! Do you see the cycle? My life is an endless cycle of worrying about things, then worrying about the fact that other people worry about my worrying..... Craziness.
Most of the time I just want to grab my head and shake it... ask it why the heck it has to be this way. Why can't I just go with the flow like a normal person? Why do I constantly worry about things that probably will not even happen, going from one thing to another, driving the people in my life crazy? My boyfriend told me today that the amount of my worrying gets overwhelming. Bear in mind I'm only about 3 months into this new relationship and my boyfriend is a real catch.... I don't want to lose him over this if there is a way to control it or stop it. I don't know if I have OCD. What I do know is that my life is controlled by anxious thoughts.... all day every day. I must also point out that my brother has been diagnosed with OCD and takes meds for it. I've heard it runs in families.... but I'm not certain I have it. For a little while I thought perhaps I had depression because I cry so often...
I'm seeing a counselor this Friday... but if anyone has any comments they would be appreciated. Thanks.
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