wow, welcome to my life.
i know exactly what you mean, i feel like my mum has contributed to my SA (ok perhaps not exactly what your talking about but oh well) i was extremely shy as a kid my mum being the biggest talker i know would always talk for me kind of thing it was like i was mute and everytime someone would ask me a question she'd never give me the option to speak she'd just answer it for me, it got to the point where i'd just look to her for the answer instead of even trying to answer someones question. I never learnt to be able to communicate with people even buying something from the shop i'd give her the money and she'd go pay for it for me. my friends would ring me up on the phone and i'd refuse to talk to them so she'd organise me going over to their house instead of me doing it myself its insane! now i feel like im completely dependant on her...
except she isnt very sympathetic towards me she gets pissed off if im shy (???) or if i get nervous, if i feel sick, even if i have the flu she gets angry at me, if i cry she'd call me a baby (hello im like 8? at the time i was 8 or so), i then learnt to hide my feelings from the world in fear of being judged.
i don't hate her though, i feel like she has her own anxieties its the only way i can forgive her. I think maybe she cares so much that it worries the crap outta her she has no clue how to deal with it? and i guess she isn't good at showing her emotions either, she never likes to cry infront of me or anything like that...
To me it sounds like your mum is just worrying about you. I know it sucks and its hard and you need a life of your own to be able to experience normal things everyone else does, make mistakes and learn from them. I think she is just being over-protective have you told her how you feel? she obviously loves you alot and doesn't want anything bad to ever happen to you...I guess she also has her own anxities and needs to deal with them? ( i feel like my mum has passed hers on to me, i never use to care about my appearence until she started calling herself fat all the time now im paranoid about how i look)
unfortunately there isn't much you can do? how old are you? are you able to move out? actually even just talk to someone? like a counciler or something? it's amazing how much better you feel once you've talked to someone they can offer advice about what to do also... I'd love to help but i feel like i'm in the same boat....
i cant even catch public transport cause i never learnt my mum would just drive me where i wanted to go...then one day she got a life of her own got divorced found someone else... i'm 20 and i feel like i've gotta go back to being 10 and learn how to communicate, how to be confident, how to cook, how to catch a damn bus, you know things you need in everyday life to be able to grow up and move outta home!