dancing...

[no1]

Is this the ONLY way to meet the opposite sex? Or like, what the majority of people do to find partners?

Why? It's so freakin stupid.

just because I don't go to dances and stuff to hit on random women and cold approach them with the intent to "get laid" i won't meet women.

Jeez.. fcukin sexuality in this society is really masochistic and messed up.

 

[Danfalc]

There are lots of ways,i think you just have to be ready for a relationship mentally with the problems we have.

But there are so many ways..there is NO SET way of meeting someone,there is no rule book saying you have to do this or that.I met mine online and that i guess isnt the typical way,but im happy.

You cant blame society for being the way it is though,yes sometimes it hurts and doesnt feel fair...we have social anxiety...that will and does affect our social life and the way we meet people,but its still not impossible if you have the right attitude.

 

[no1]

Cuz... most dancing these days.. are grinding, and sexual innuendo.

It's purely animalistic, or darwinistic the way people's minds are about sexuality and he was wrong about HUMAN evolution. YEA THAT'S RIGHT.

 

[no1]

There are lots of ways,i think you just have to be ready for a relationship mentally with the problems we have.

But there are so many ways..there is NO SET way of meeting someone,there is no rule book saying you have to do this or that.I met mine online and that i guess isnt the typical way,but im happy.

You cant blame society for being the way it is though,yes sometimes it hurts and doesnt feel fair...we have social anxiety...that will and does affect our social life and the way we meet people,but its still not impossible if you have the right attitude.

It's a longa nd hard road. IF and ONLY IF it does so happen that I can find someone similar to me by that time I will be so freaking worn out, and probably dying.

 

[no1]

I was thinking about taking salsa lessons tho one of these days when, IF I have time. I don't even know if I can since I have school and stuff, and I want to study extra on the side on my own.

clubs and stuff are freakin breeding grounds.

The people who go are simply looking for sex (that is if they don't just go to dance, and I mean REGULAR dancing not just "grinding/dirty dancing").

 

[freestylemonster]

^^You couldn't be more wrong, my friend...I've been to clubs and stuff and yes, there are people grinding and stuff, I even did it a couple times, it's fun!

But most girls there aren't looking for sex, just a fun night out with their girlfriends. It's the guys who are looking for sex lol

And yeah bars and clubs are the worst places to meet girls. You can meet them ANYWHERE. Just kep an open mind and be ready for anything.

 

[no1]

^^You couldn't be more wrong, my friend...I've been to clubs and stuff and yes, there are people grinding and stuff, I even did it a couple times, it's fun!

But most girls there aren't looking for sex, just a fun night out with their girlfriends. It's the guys who are looking for sex lol

And yeah bars and clubs are the worst places to meet girls. You can meet them ANYWHERE. Just kep an open mind and be ready for anything.

Ok... but still I don't get dancing. What are the girls doing there? to dance with guys.

 

[freestylemonster]

^^Girls like to drink and dance with each other

 

[no1]

^^Girls like to drink and dance with each other

for guy's attention.?

 

[DASwife]

Ummm...no. I'm married and love going out dancing with my girls. Just to dance and have fun. Do guys only play sports for girl's attention? I'd hope not.

I'm disabled and 8 months pregnant, and I STILL go out dancing sometimes. Its fun, and a great stress reliever. I honestly haven't met a girl who goes out to the club to get laid, we go out to have fun. Its the guys who are usually trying to grind on us, and for the most part, most girls move away when that happens.

 

[DASwife]

"fcukin sexuality in this society is really masochistic and messed up."

Oh and btw, while this to some point may be true, you also have to remember that your views might need some tweaking as well!

 

[no1]

ok look. Im just fed up with this society in general as reguards to sexuality and the lies they live. Dancing in these days is MOSTLY sexually motivated.

Whatever happened to spiritual dancing, that wasn't so sexually motivated? ok. dancing between partners is fine. but to go looking for people to dance with, in a setting like with music that has sexual references, and music so loud that you can't even talk to people. like... how can you just dance with people that you don't know, whilst at the same time it is also sexually motivated?

 

[PunkRotten]

People in bars and clubs are lame ****s! Sleazy place with sleazy people. Let trash have trash, I sit back and laugh.

 

[freestylemonster]

ok look. Im just fed up with this society in general as reguards to sexuality and the lies they live. Dancing in these days is MOSTLY sexually motivated.

Whatever happened to spiritual dancing, that wasn't so sexually motivated? ok. dancing between partners is fine. but to go looking for people to dance with, in a setting like with music that has sexual references, and music so loud that you can't even talk to people. like... how can you just dance with people that you don't know, whilst at the same time it is also sexually motivated?

Man since the beginning of time when men and women dance together it's at least a little bit sexual. That's just the way it is and always will be...it's not that big of a deal!!

 

[no1]

Man since the beginning of time when men and women dance together it's at least a little bit sexual. That's just the way it is and always will be...it's not that big of a deal!!

I just want to learn how. How can I fit into this society and not have to be a "player". I don't want to dance too close with any female I don't know.. I don't want to dance at all. I want to go to a club with a friend, but alone makes me look like a loser if I just go from girl to girl being rejected.. looking for "approval." I don't have a friend I can just go and do that with.. not yet at least.

what do I have to do to get some friends who can go with me to a club or dance? or I should look for some type of event that features music that I can go to by myself that is in "par" with my values to start off. I need someone to sort of introduce me into it.. I can't just go there by myself expecting to know what to do.. I've never done it not even as a youngster.. never danced, never anything. I don't know...

 

[Richey]

Again this can be attributed to the environment you are forcing yourself to let go around. its also why people have to drink to partake in dancing.

there is an indie club in the city that is really layed back and plays the sort of danceable rock and indie music i personally enjoy and its more of a fun and silly sort of dancing, like there are the sorts of people that just dance silly but it doesn't really matter because its funny and not serious like certain clubs can be. it can be sexual though but that depends on the person. you can sit down and not dance as well and just take in the atmosphere of the place and its more open and sophisticated. not trashy or typical. The place is never too busy like most clubs on a weekend are overloaded with people who are generally annoying and have bad taste in music and films, that is a little harsh but its kind of true. I live in australia and everyone seems to only talk about football as conversation starters, again its just very cliched but typical.

Also people generally like to dance to anything. i'm not into this at all. if i like a song i'll dance to it but most places play lame dance hits that just dont interest me. Its funny how people can just dance to any old song, actually i kind of envy them for just wanting to enjoy themselves moving to the noise but it feels weird to me dancing to crap music.

my advice is to do some research and find the place that suits you because you'll also find that the people are on your level.

I'd probably enjoy DJ'ing more then actual dancing, being the controller and getting the crowd moving which is very selfish of me but at least it'll be decent music

 

[Richey]

One way of getting around that is to take an iPod and listen to your own music instead of what is playing on the dancefloor, that way the environment isn't controlling you.