Converstion between two people with SAD

Andrew

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Not in their minds. They would be constantly panicking, trying to think of something to say. "Oh SHITTTT WHAT DO I SAY FUCK, SOMETHING ABOUT ELEPHANTS".
 

Doomed2Die

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Correct.

Nothing is more awkward than two or more SA sufferers in a room together. I mean really, it's extreme.
 

Square_Eyes

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Now there's an idea for a reality television show.

CONCEPT: 12 people with SA locked up together in a house full of cameras, first one to speak wins £100,000.

Try pitching that to Channel 4.

In all seriousness though, there just wouldn't be much room for dialogue amidst all that tension. However, in my mixed up head full of Hollywood-esque hippy ideals I'd like to think/pretend that the two people, sensing their shared misfortunes would achieve the unachievable, gaze in to each others eyes and have a good ol' hug about it.

Awww.
 

new_mom_09

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I think it would depend on whether they both knew the other person had SA. I think it would be a good conversation piece, they'd probably talk for a while about it.
If they don't know, then they would for sure panick and be careful about what they say.
 

marciaX3

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i have recently been wondering how it would be for 2 people with SA to fall in love and get married and all. is that even possible? does anyone know anyone in that situation?
 

Luna_LL

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marciaX3 said:
i have recently been wondering how it would be for 2 people with SA to fall in love and get married and all. is that even possible? does anyone know anyone in that situation?

I do. Have to say my half- sister at 19 got married to a guy that she met in college. She majored in architecture and him in mechanical engineering. They were both kind of geeks. They were the first ones each other met (ie: they took the first thing that came along).

It may have worked out for him as my 1/2 sister is a beautiful geek, but for her, she gave up Christianity (for his Jehovah-witness) and she graduated when they got married (he still had a year). He never graduated, btw and they're struggling both messed up from what i hear.

I think a big problem is that she just takes fate as the way instead of making it for herself and she just succumbs to whatever comes her way as a result of it, and does little to propel it in any other direction.
 
Actually me and my best buddy both have social anxiety, and since I know that about him I'm way more comfortable talkin to him...Plus we've been friends for like 7 years
 

TheLoneWolf

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all girls ive ever dated have had it to some extreme. It works better because you're on the same wavlength, whereas a "normal" person would make you feel uncomfortable and you to them. My best friend has it too.
 

marciaX3

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that's really cool that people w/ SA have been able to find others w/ SA in their lives. now that i think about it, i agree that it would make being w/ them easier than others because you have SA in common and can better understand each other more than anyone else. that's quite a bond.

another thing i wonder, does the both of you having SA make it harder to deal w/ the trivial crap in life (phone calls, going out, parties, etc) because both of you aren't really willing/able to do these things (and you don't have a non-SA person pushing you to do it) or does it make it easier to have that support of knowing that you both have a hard time with it? i'm in a nosey mood lol.

i personally haven't been so lucky in that dept. i don't know anyone in RL that has SA really... and that's probably part of why i've stopped being around all of them. my boyfriend doesn't have it either, although you'd think he did since he's so deathly silent when we're around other people. i can say that being with him, he doesn't let me be the hermit crab i wanna be. he makes me/us go out at least a couple times a week, days in a row even. if i had my way, i'd never go anywhere. so in a way, being with him is good b/c i get "exposure" to the outside world, but it's also not good b/c he doesn't really understand SA and why some days i refuse to go anywhere. ok, enuf blabbing :)
 

Birdman

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freestylemonster said:
Actually me and my best buddy both have social anxiety, and since I know that about him I'm way more comfortable talkin to him...Plus we've been friends for like 7 years

Thats awseome
 

incense

Member
I have a friend who has SA. The first time we met he did all the talking which was nice as well as surprising. I hope he feels that talkative the second time we meet (in a week! 8O )
 

slimjim119

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Birdman said:
I think it would be just silent


Not always the case. SA affects people differently. I'm fine with one on one conversations. It's groups or crowds that gets my heart pounding. I can usually come up with topics to keep a conversation going. I'm good at keeping my composure. People usually can't sense my fear.
 
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