Combinations?

Reaching-Zen

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#1
Hi to all fellow blushers. I'm wondering about your opinions on not just one remedy, but a combination of remedies, and if you believe they may be more effective.

I hear a little on diet, and more specificallly caffeine. I hear a little about various vitamin supplements like magnesium together with one or two others. Some mention their faith.

I also hear about peak physical and mental health.

My question is, seeing that not one particular method is really effective for all, do you think combining all the known helpful measures combined, will be more effective than any on their own?

Say, become fit, try to stress less, taken vitamins like magnesium, avoid caffeine products, etc.

Has anyone found their faith effective?

Do you believe its a physical problem, a mental problem, a combination of both, or a more physiological issue such as genetics?

Do one or both of your parents suffer?


Your thoughts please? I'd love to hear them, good or bad. :)
 
#2
Hi reaching-zen,

I think it's a combination of a mental problem and a physical problem, with the mental side being the most important.

As for the physical side of it, we all know certain things can 'trigger' it. I have blond hair and fair skin, and there will always be some level of redness in my face. Summer: when it's hot, winter: when it's cold. When I'm exercising. When I eat spicy foods. It's always something! *sigh*
Caffeine doesn't seem to affect me that much, which is good because I love coffee :lol:

Alcohol is a bit of a puzzle for me.. Sometimes when I go out I can drink 7-8 units of alcohol and not be red, other times I'm at a restaurant having just one glass of wine and my face will just burn. I've been thinking about it and maybe there's a psychological factor. Like when you go out, and you're dancing and it's dark and nobody can really see your face you're not worried about it. But at a restaurant, under bright lights I'm always conscious of how bad it might be, and then one glass can be too much.

However, I think the mental side is the most important. At least, for me. I don't mind being a bit blotchy because I have been exercising, because that's a legitimate reason (even though I don't think it's fair when other people just look a bit sweaty while I'm looking like I've run a marathon).
But it's the constant blushing in new and social situations because of shyness that is the worst. And knowing that it only gets worse (well, in my situation anyway) and that I'll have to live my life like this, that's really getting me down.
 

Reaching-Zen

Well-known member
#3
Hi ullala. Your story is identicle to mine. If its dimly lit somewhere, I have no fear, because I know they wont see changes, therefore I dont go red anyway. After exercising, I have the same confidence, I'm already red, therefore there's nothing to fear. Same with sunburn, they wont notice me slightly blush, so I have full confidence.

I dont go full blown red until I get a slight blush, which sometimes leads to a medium level blush, which will inturn go full blown.

I have also become a master of avoiding difficult situations.... finding the dimmest seat at a restaurant, not sitting in front of or directly facing others in a train seat, getting red BEFORE something big, stocking my drink full of ice in a social situation like at a table,[you dont really blush with ice in your mouth], directing attention away from myself, and the list goes on. It becomes second nature, and a way of life. With practise, you'd be surprised how good you can get at avoiding embarrasing blushing spells.

I have already found improvements in myself after listening to an audio on blushing too. :D
 
#4
Reaching-Zen said:
I have also become a master of avoiding difficult situations.... finding the dimmest seat at a restaurant, not sitting in front of or directly facing others in a train seat, getting red BEFORE something big, stocking my drink full of ice in a social situation like at a table,[you dont really blush with ice in your mouth], directing attention away from myself, and the list goes on. It becomes second nature, and a way of life. With practise, you'd be surprised how good you can get at avoiding embarrasing blushing spells.
I do it to, but I find the constant avoiding VERY tiring. I wish I didn't have to do it. It seems that I'm always assessing every room I walk into, like how bright are the lights, where can I sit to not be noticed etc.
I'm physically tired a the end of the day.
 
#5
I know exactly what you're saying ullala. I to used to have a ton of distraction techniques that I would use to hide my blushing. However, I realised by doing that I'm just avoiding my problem, so instead I'm learning to face my problem, not hide it and look people in the eye and let myself blush if I have to.

As for combinations,

I agree, I've started on a long journey to self improvement. I always used to think that if i could just change this one thing, everything else would fall into place. I was looking for a magic cure which would sort everything out in life.

What I've realised now is that self improvement just doesn't happen like that. It's the lot's of small changes over time that we make, will slowly begin to build up into bigger improvements.

So see what combination's working for you, scrap what isn't, move on and just keep on improving. There's not going to be a fast cure but if you work at it, over time things will get better.
 
#6
yep - im sitting in the library now in the darkest corner i can find. i bought a nice side light for my room so its nice and dim, never have the main light on. feel more confident in darker places. i also use avoiding techniques like u's lot have mentions e.g. sitting right at the back of a room - no one behind you to see ur redness, waiting for smaller queue in a shop, even eating a piece of fruit when talking to ppl as this helps me take my mind of things...!
 
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