Can't move past this bubble.

[WeAreGiants]

So my is John, I'm 22 years old, I don't have a job, I don't go to college, I don't have a Driver's License, and I live with my parents. I suffer from depression, this depression has consumed my "Life". So I've created my own little bubble and in this bubble I feel like everything is prefect, but when I see other people I feel like I'll always be stuck in this bubble. I've suffered from this depression since I was in my teens. It cripples any progression in life that a normal person goes through, such as going off to college, meeting new people, looking for a job, or even going for my driver's license. It feels like every time I attempt something I get a feeling like I'm not good enough, that I will mess it up. I just can't get out of this cycle of me trying and never getting out. I'm really sick of feeling this way, I'm mad at myself for living this way. I sometimes just wanna disappear or maybe just end it. I always think to myself maybe if I end it I'll start a new, a normal life. A normal life sounds nice, I see my 2 friends live their lives, having a gf, going to college, driving out to go to parties, etc. Then I look at myself and I fee like a dumbass, like I won't change. I feel lost and I will never be found.

 

[Srijita52]

Hi John, welcome to SPW. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe you need to push yourself out of the bubble by taking one step at a time. For example you can make a goal to get your driver's license first and concentrate on getting it done. After that you can move on to other things. Set small goals for yourself and gradually work your way through harder ones. It takes a little time though so try not to be too hard on yourself if things don't work out at times. Good luck!

 

[Divine]

I'm sorry to hear that, John. I can sort of relate to what you're going through, as i'm always depressed and in my own bubble sort of. I'm currently attending college, but i'm not having the normal college experience. I really haven't made many friends because i'm afraid to approach people and afraid to join clubs. So, I just go to class, come home and go back into my bubble most of the time. I try going places and doing things, but like you, I feel like i'm not good enough and I feel like the people around me are always judging me. But, I will tell you, like Srijita said, it helps to set small goals. Baby steps. I'd start with getting your license. Ask your parents to let you drive places and don't take the test until you are completely comfortable with your driving ability. Just know that you don't have to be like everyone else, just be who you are. I've been the shy type my entire life and everyone's always told me "you need to get out of that, you're an adult..blah blah blah blah," but I've came to realize that it's who I am and it takes time to get out of that bubble. I started getting out of my bubble a little my senior year in high school when I joined a club and became close with all of the members. I actually became the leader of the club, but after I moved to attend college it's like I regressed. Though, I know I can get back out of this stupid bubble, just need to take a small step. Trust me, you feel so much better once become apart of something, no matter how big that something is. Good Luck.

 

[Falkor]

John,

You might are dealing with depression and feeling lonely and out of goals.

But hey, you sure mentioned a few things you want. This BUBBLE is bothering you. You still kinda experience it as your comfort zone, but at the other hand you'd love to escape or at least change bits by bits.

I think, you would have to do something about it, that's the only way to turn it around.

1.You could indeed get your drivers license
2.You could find some friends to relate to on depression fora's
3.You could try finding goals what you want more in life, think about it
4.Don't get lost in goals that you can't do it, if you dont try, you don't see, i know it might be scary at the beginning, but the result is a blast for ppl
5.Find a college, again?
6.Get a job, or volunteer and meet co-workers
7.Go to a meetup (meetup dot com)
8.Read self help books (depression, social anxiety, low self esteem, goals, positive thinking)
9.Find a CBT therapist
10.Go outside the house more often , to cycle or to walk and smile

The only way out, is to go for it

 

[Boby]

Hi John and welcome to the forum.
I'm 22 years old to and I have similar problems as you,I find myself in the comfort zone(my bubble)far to often but whenever I see the life others have my bubble breaks and reality hits hard and eventually I'm getting depressed ::

 

[Divine]

Hi John and welcome to the forum.
I'm 22 years old to and I have similar problems as you,I find myself in the comfort zone(my bubble)far to often but whenever I see the life others have my bubble breaks and reality hits hard and eventually I'm getting depressed ::

Yes, the depression thing happens to me a lot as well.