can't move on

[Emma]

I'm in desperate need of help.

I want my ex-boyfriend back, I mean I really do, I can't stop thinking abou him, I know he's met someone else, and he's not talking to me at all anymore, but I want him to look me in the face and tell me he doesn't care about me at all, he can say things to me on msn, but I bet you he wouldn't say them to my face, I know it will hurt but I want to have him stand in front of me and tell me he doesn't ever want to be with me again.
He said he really loved me once, so how can I get him to agree to see me for just a few minutes, so I can ask him about it, I'm willing to put myself out of my comfort zone for him, so how do I get him to see me and tell me? It's the only way I'll ever get over him, if he can look me in the eyes and say he doesn't care at all, then I'll be satisfied with that and be able to move on

 

[Shonen_Yo]

Emma, if you keep putting yourself in this position: guys will walk all over you. They'll see you as someone they can take advantage of.

You have to love yourself before others will :wink: Not that you'd need them.

 

[maggie]

I'm in desperate need of help.

I want my ex-boyfriend back, I mean I really do, I can't stop thinking abou him, I know he's met someone else, and he's not talking to me at all anymore, but I want him to look me in the face and tell me he doesn't care about me at all, he can say things to me on msn, but I bet you he wouldn't say them to my face, I know it will hurt but I want to have him stand in front of me and tell me he doesn't ever want to be with me again.
He said he really loved me once, so how can I get him to agree to see me for just a few minutes, so I can ask him about it, I'm willing to put myself out of my comfort zone for him, so how do I get him to see me and tell me? It's the only way I'll ever get over him, if he can look me in the eyes and say he doesn't care at all, then I'll be satisfied with that and be able to move on

hey Emma...sounds like you're crazy about this guy...that's hard..but maybe think about it this way..maybe instead of trying to get him to agree to see you..cause it may just hurt you again in the long run...just try to put it behind you for now..focus on yourself...and stuff that makes you happy..and be the best person you can be for yourself...and if it is meant to be..maybe sometime down the road..he'll see what he's missing :wink:

 

[Thelema]

What if he looks you right in your face and tells you he has no feelings for you? You'll feel even worse.

 

[yay]

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[allergic2kryptonit]

emma, i'm in the same situation as u. but i look at it this way, she made a choice, and even though i don't like it, there's nothing i can do about it. it's her loss, because there's only one of me in existance :?

i know that's not much consolation, but i do feel your pain every day - so you're not alone. and have faith that things will work out for you one way or the other.

i think maybe we should start a dating site for social anxiety peoples??

 

[non_existence]

I want my ex-boyfriend back, I mean I really do, I can't stop thinking abou him

I guess try to focus on other activities for a while to distract yourself away from thinking about him too much, eventually you'll start forgetting about the relationship and move on. But initially just force yourself to do lots of other things that aren't connected to him in any way.

 

[Kinetik]

Emma, things have a habit of being pulled away from people the more they strive for them, it's one of those laws of the universe. Learn to appreciate yourself, because the feeling of what he's missing will only become apparent once you can somehow radiate that, and nobody else can do it for you. The trick is to be your own source of happiness and try to be less dependant on everyone else. You can depend on yourself, you can't on others - and that's the cause of unhappiness as a rule. So tell yourself you're going to be a cool chick and that you're not going to let any man get you down. You've seen how unhappy they can make you, so don't give them the satisfaction of being the cause of it. Be strong, because that puts you in control, meaning you'll never have to be on the wrong end of things like this again. That's why it's important you try and break this dependancy habit of yours while you're young - it will save you many years of stress and heartache later on.

 

[maggie]

Emma, things have a habit of being pulled away from people the more they strive for them, it's one of those laws of the universe. Learn to appreciate yourself, because the feeling of what he's missing will only become apparent once you can somehow radiate that, and nobody else can do it for you. The trick is to be your own source of happiness and try to be less dependant on everyone else. You can depend on yourself, you can't on others - and that's the cause of unhappiness as a rule. So tell yourself you're going to be a cool chick and that you're not going to let any man get you down. You've seen how unhappy they can make you, so don't give them the satisfaction of being the cause of it. Be strong, because that puts you in control, meaning you'll never have to be on the wrong end of things like this again. That's why it's important you try and break this dependancy habit of yours while you're young - it will save you many years of stress and heartache later on.

good post Kinetik :!: