theslowesthand
Banned
Don't know if it's really that much of problem, but as of late has gained my "interest"
It is that i seem to have lost all interest in the oppsoite sex (women)
In real life (not porn) i just have no intereset in them (getting to know, having reltionship with). I don't mind being friendly to them (eg at shop-counter), but am not even slightly interest anything more than such friendly "shop-banter"
I still do lust after the odd one, here-and-there, but i wouldn't really want to ACT on that (seem to prefer just the feelings of lust, but not the complications eg sex (??). Or maybe i've just looked at way too much porn in my life?
Or maybe its due to a life spent in isolation .. with little or none real women contact .. and the little "stimulation" they DID offer to me in past (eg lust), has now gone?
Whatever. I dunno.
The thing is, there's at least one young woman ("Lusty") in "town" that i know for sure is "into" me (& wants to start a relationship), & 2 others who are definate maybe's (have shown some IOI's to me, which i picked up on; one of of these ("Friendly") work in same shop as Lusty). I first recieved IOI's from Lusty 2 or 3 years ago, when she first started working there (at the chemist where i get my meds from). One time we made full eye contact for several seconds whilst i was talking to another staff member (she was just standing there staring at me!). Another time (just recently) she did the walk-away-look-over-shoulder thing. One time i overheard Firendly/Lusty saying 'he's so frustarting'.
I'm not dumb, i have picked up on these things. And as i said before it's not really a problem - i could care less what happens (well to be honest i'd rather nothing happen).
The (minor) problem is only that i am a little confused about what i should do (not that i'd do anything! - as i've NEVER "done anything" concerning women - & nowadays i don't WANT to do anything). I like Friendly better, and she's much friendlier (always smiles when talking to me, & constantly giving me the "glad-eye" i think). Lusty makes me nervous.
I'm not the type of guy who approaches women .. its all SLOW .. SLOW .. SLOW with me - SO slow that nothing has ever happened, but i can't handle things moving any faster than that.
But the above situation is really just a symptom of my general "malaise" concerning women that i have nowadays. I just don't see the point of ever having a "relationship" (i seem to be quite happy living life in my own "solitary little bubble of one", with virtually none social contact of any sort, male or female), or sex (i can hug my pillow, "jerk-the-gerkin" - DONE). Sex/relationships = just seem to me like adding an awful lot of ongoing complications to life, when my mind is already totally full of complex computer/techno/other stuff already.
My libido is usually very low or non-existent (so don't need sex partner to resolve my "lust problem"), & i seldom have any contact with (attractive) women in real life (& even if do, the lust is quickly overtaken by other feelings like boredom with the object of lust)
I seldom get lonely (so don't need company/reassurance/etc via relationshp)
So WHY should i ever have an "relationship"???
It is that i seem to have lost all interest in the oppsoite sex (women)
In real life (not porn) i just have no intereset in them (getting to know, having reltionship with). I don't mind being friendly to them (eg at shop-counter), but am not even slightly interest anything more than such friendly "shop-banter"
I still do lust after the odd one, here-and-there, but i wouldn't really want to ACT on that (seem to prefer just the feelings of lust, but not the complications eg sex (??). Or maybe i've just looked at way too much porn in my life?
Or maybe its due to a life spent in isolation .. with little or none real women contact .. and the little "stimulation" they DID offer to me in past (eg lust), has now gone?
Whatever. I dunno.
The thing is, there's at least one young woman ("Lusty") in "town" that i know for sure is "into" me (& wants to start a relationship), & 2 others who are definate maybe's (have shown some IOI's to me, which i picked up on; one of of these ("Friendly") work in same shop as Lusty). I first recieved IOI's from Lusty 2 or 3 years ago, when she first started working there (at the chemist where i get my meds from). One time we made full eye contact for several seconds whilst i was talking to another staff member (she was just standing there staring at me!). Another time (just recently) she did the walk-away-look-over-shoulder thing. One time i overheard Firendly/Lusty saying 'he's so frustarting'.
I'm not dumb, i have picked up on these things. And as i said before it's not really a problem - i could care less what happens (well to be honest i'd rather nothing happen).
The (minor) problem is only that i am a little confused about what i should do (not that i'd do anything! - as i've NEVER "done anything" concerning women - & nowadays i don't WANT to do anything). I like Friendly better, and she's much friendlier (always smiles when talking to me, & constantly giving me the "glad-eye" i think). Lusty makes me nervous.
I'm not the type of guy who approaches women .. its all SLOW .. SLOW .. SLOW with me - SO slow that nothing has ever happened, but i can't handle things moving any faster than that.
But the above situation is really just a symptom of my general "malaise" concerning women that i have nowadays. I just don't see the point of ever having a "relationship" (i seem to be quite happy living life in my own "solitary little bubble of one", with virtually none social contact of any sort, male or female), or sex (i can hug my pillow, "jerk-the-gerkin" - DONE). Sex/relationships = just seem to me like adding an awful lot of ongoing complications to life, when my mind is already totally full of complex computer/techno/other stuff already.
My libido is usually very low or non-existent (so don't need sex partner to resolve my "lust problem"), & i seldom have any contact with (attractive) women in real life (& even if do, the lust is quickly overtaken by other feelings like boredom with the object of lust)
I seldom get lonely (so don't need company/reassurance/etc via relationshp)
So WHY should i ever have an "relationship"???
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