To work at building your self confidence, you must be able to understand the aspects that effect you in your life first. Once you know where the areas you struggle and want to work on; only then you can be able to improve on yourself. Maybe a lot of you guys already know that but, I'm here to help people but also to help myself and find ways to relate to anyone. I'll say that self confidence isn't easy if you're always constantly thinking about the negative images you place upon yourself. For example, I don't think I'm attractive or I can't fit in with anyone because I'm different. If anything, having the loss of confidence can happen when something eventful happened in your life that someone might of did or said; possibly both. Whether it was from bullying, to family issues, or maybe even social cues that triggered it; it all depends on how much you fulfill the things that you did in your life. The more you believe in others to stomp on your tracks or the more you think that whatever you say nothing will come out of it; then that's where you begin to lose your confidence. True confidence comes from the heart and following the things that you truly love to do and believing in yourself. However confidence can lead to many different type of sections depending how you gain and use it. Like some who have a lot of confidence can be very egotistical though I'm not implying that all ego people are selfish. I'm just saying that some may have more pride in themselves then others and there's people who have confidence for the sake of taking commitment. Overall, I'm here on behave to hear about anyone who has been through difficult situations about their ways with pretty much anything. I'm quite open, I don't judge and I'm interested to learn more about the life of the social phobia world.