momijichan
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Hello all. I'm a 25 year old female and for most of my life I have wondered the same thing...why I always seem to escape the attention of the opposite sex.
I'm fairly attractive, I believe, certainly not completely hideous. I feel like most girls my age (and this was the same for me even when I was younger) are approached by guys, flirted with, hit on, asked out, etc, at least every once in awhile. That girls don't have to really "look for dates" so to speak, that if you're halfway attractive guys will seek you out.
But this doesn't happen for me, ever. Random guys I don't know don't flirt with me or ask me out (I don't spend a lot of time in bars, but I mean places like the supermarket or any public place really). A lot of times guys will fall for me after they have gotten to know me some, and a lot of guys I have met online ended up liking me.
So...obviously I'm not completely unlikeable. And if I had a big enough social base to meet a lot of guys and have them get to know me, I wouldn't have a problem (a subject for another post).
I have a few theories, and I was hoping I could get feedback from you people about which one(s) may be the source of my problem and ways I can fix them. Or if you have anything else I may not be thinking of.
1. Unrealistic expectations--maybe the average girl doesn't get flirted with or asked out by random men as much as I'm imagining?
2. Body language--maybe since I tend to be shy and not open to speaking with strangers/random people, I put off "leave me alone vibes" in my facial expressions and posture?
3. It has been suggested to me by a guy I met online that maybe I intimidate guys. But I find that really hard to fathom.
4. I know I have actually done this in the past... but maybe guys do try to flirt with me and I don't realize it? Like maybe the other week when the cute maintenance guy asked me a question while I was reading, he was trying to start a conversation?
5. All of the above?
Any insight would be welcome.
I'm fairly attractive, I believe, certainly not completely hideous. I feel like most girls my age (and this was the same for me even when I was younger) are approached by guys, flirted with, hit on, asked out, etc, at least every once in awhile. That girls don't have to really "look for dates" so to speak, that if you're halfway attractive guys will seek you out.
But this doesn't happen for me, ever. Random guys I don't know don't flirt with me or ask me out (I don't spend a lot of time in bars, but I mean places like the supermarket or any public place really). A lot of times guys will fall for me after they have gotten to know me some, and a lot of guys I have met online ended up liking me.
So...obviously I'm not completely unlikeable. And if I had a big enough social base to meet a lot of guys and have them get to know me, I wouldn't have a problem (a subject for another post).
I have a few theories, and I was hoping I could get feedback from you people about which one(s) may be the source of my problem and ways I can fix them. Or if you have anything else I may not be thinking of.
1. Unrealistic expectations--maybe the average girl doesn't get flirted with or asked out by random men as much as I'm imagining?
2. Body language--maybe since I tend to be shy and not open to speaking with strangers/random people, I put off "leave me alone vibes" in my facial expressions and posture?
3. It has been suggested to me by a guy I met online that maybe I intimidate guys. But I find that really hard to fathom.
4. I know I have actually done this in the past... but maybe guys do try to flirt with me and I don't realize it? Like maybe the other week when the cute maintenance guy asked me a question while I was reading, he was trying to start a conversation?
5. All of the above?
Any insight would be welcome.