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Biff

Biff

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Part 5

The techniques described here are not specific to one problem in particular. They can be used in many different ways. Stan and I have used them to coach executives, to cure public speaking anxiety and to even help a few people with dating anxieties. As I mentioned earlier, I don’t pretend to be an expert in anything. I don’t have all the answers. And I am not trying to minimize your condition. I am simply giving you one method that seems to succeed in other areas of human development. At least it’s drug free and doesn’t involve too much distress to implement.

I know many of you can’t wait to flame me and tell me that I am out of my league by trying to solve a mental illness with such a simple method. You’re entitled to your opinion, but do me a favour; make sure it’s constructive criticism and not a way to exact your revenge on one of the most hated posters on your site.

One thing I want to mention here is that there are other problems involved after reaching a high level standing with this method. One main problem is that some people may take on other negative characteristics such as egotism, arrogance, and cockiness. This is a problem I am dealing with right now as a matter of fact. So really, all I can say is that this can sneak up on you and it takes a great self-awareness to stay on the straight and narrow.

So, I guess that’s about it. I’m ready for your criticism, but my take on things is that if only one person follows through with this and succeeds, then it’s worth it.

I won’t be posting here anymore-I mean it this time, but if anyone wants to contact me for any reason then my e-mil is [email protected]. I have an anti-hate mail filter on my inbox, so you are wasting your time sending any threatening letters.
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Tim001

Tim001

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IcanDoIt said:
Biff said:
Part 5
..doesn’t involve too much distress to implement.
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i think it causes lots and lots of distress, SAers will agree..:)
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I may have misinterpreted Biff's post, but when he mentions scalability, I took that to mean that you could break things down to the point where you feel comfortable with minimal stress. No matter how small you start though, I guess there will always be some fear. :)
 
Makaylee

Makaylee

Member
I think its a pretty good plan. I never really thought of breaking things up into little "baby steps" like that before. If you start small it should make it easier, though you will always have to deal with fear if you ever want to help yourself. This just makes it a little easier to work with, I think. Thanks for the good advice. :)
 
Sebastian

Sebastian

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Well, some people decided to give Biff the benefit of the doubt and they were not disappointed. His intentions were good afterall.

As for your problem with "egotism, arrogance, and cockiness", think about this Buddhist saying "The defaults one should avoid are self-cherrishing and ignorance". Read some of the Dalai Lama books, they might help you.
 
Horatio

Horatio

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Its great in theory and Im sure that process Biff has talked about does and WILL work for some people.

However for a lot of us on this site SP isn't black and white and there are other issues complicating the matter.

For myself firstly my depression is another matter seperate from SP yet very much linked at the same time. Any attempt to overcome my SP will be sabotaged by my depression.

Secondly, its all well and good to split the ski slopes into seperate levels and work your way up bit by bit. But in order to do that you NEED to have someone who knows what they are doing to help you through it. In order to ski successfully one needs to know how to put skis on, get directions to the skilift, have someone tell them how to start, how to steer and how to stop.

I feel that I honestly am in the dark when it comes to socialising and forming relationships. If I knew what I was supposed to do then I could plan the best approach to get experience doing it.

In summary, I think Biff's idea is a valid one but is a 2 dimensional solution for what to many of us is a 3 dimensional problem
 
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