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I've probably read everything ever written to help with shyness and social discomfort and nothing has helped much. I want to tell you about the first book that has helped me change some long held onto ideas and now I am really more comfortable in social situations than I ever thought possible for me.
I saw a woman on The Today Show who is a health educator and a shyness coach. She was wonderfully understanding about how it feels to be socially anxious because she was that way too. She has done research for over 25 years and raised a shy child of her own and she has insights that I would have never thought of. I cried and laughed as she described in her book my life and so much of what I was feeling.
Her name is Laurie Adelman and she wrote an amazing book called Don't Call Me Shy. In it she describes in detail that is easy to understand how shy individuals come to think of themselves in a limited way and how our socially uncomfortable expectations actually make us more uncomfortable. Every day we "prove" to ourself, over and over again that we are shy and uncomfortable and unable to behave differently.
The Don't Call Me Shy method helps people change their thinking so that we can change how we behave. I went through the book and even contacted her a few times with questions that I had and I can tell you that for the first time in my life I am confident and feel appreciative for what I can do-and I'm reaching out to new people every day.
I will be forever grateful for this book because it has truly changed my life. The book is written for parents of shy kids and for socially uncomfortable adults like I was who can learn to use the same techniques to change our expectations for ourself and grow much more confident. I want to tell everyone else who deals with social anxiety so that you can try it for yourself.
I saw a woman on The Today Show who is a health educator and a shyness coach. She was wonderfully understanding about how it feels to be socially anxious because she was that way too. She has done research for over 25 years and raised a shy child of her own and she has insights that I would have never thought of. I cried and laughed as she described in her book my life and so much of what I was feeling.
Her name is Laurie Adelman and she wrote an amazing book called Don't Call Me Shy. In it she describes in detail that is easy to understand how shy individuals come to think of themselves in a limited way and how our socially uncomfortable expectations actually make us more uncomfortable. Every day we "prove" to ourself, over and over again that we are shy and uncomfortable and unable to behave differently.
The Don't Call Me Shy method helps people change their thinking so that we can change how we behave. I went through the book and even contacted her a few times with questions that I had and I can tell you that for the first time in my life I am confident and feel appreciative for what I can do-and I'm reaching out to new people every day.
I will be forever grateful for this book because it has truly changed my life. The book is written for parents of shy kids and for socially uncomfortable adults like I was who can learn to use the same techniques to change our expectations for ourself and grow much more confident. I want to tell everyone else who deals with social anxiety so that you can try it for yourself.
