Hi,
I'm a very social phobic person . And I've also had this kind of pattern of thinking below all my life:
"My God, I was a total loser at work today, that's unnaceptable, I can't never experience this feeling ever again. Oh my God, I'm going to work again only when I'm cured." And I used to avoid the experience for years after that.
2 months ago I started to play a game at the computer that you are a soccer coach and you start from below, like the 4º division. My team stayed at the fourth division for "years" at the game, and then I went to the third division and after that, again, I went to the fourth division. Weeks playing and then I went to the second division, I was really happy, because this game was somehow for me very similar to my ups and downs at life.
While playing, suddenly, ocurred a thought to me saying that I didn't have to be perfect at social interactions, that it was ok to lose and stay at the fourth division if I keep going to the matches. I applied this to my life and I started to work again few weesk ago and now, when I do everything wrong and come home depressed, I think like a soccer coach, not like a suicide person.
I think that I'm just a weak team that wants to go to first division, and I will do like weak teams do, they play and fight every single year.
No more avoidance after that.
I even drive my car to a very crowded shopping at my city and I went very badly, I admit. It was a 5x0 loss. But I can play again next week, can't I?
Hope this insight help someone, because something has really changed in me.
Cheers.
I'm a very social phobic person . And I've also had this kind of pattern of thinking below all my life:
"My God, I was a total loser at work today, that's unnaceptable, I can't never experience this feeling ever again. Oh my God, I'm going to work again only when I'm cured." And I used to avoid the experience for years after that.
2 months ago I started to play a game at the computer that you are a soccer coach and you start from below, like the 4º division. My team stayed at the fourth division for "years" at the game, and then I went to the third division and after that, again, I went to the fourth division. Weeks playing and then I went to the second division, I was really happy, because this game was somehow for me very similar to my ups and downs at life.
While playing, suddenly, ocurred a thought to me saying that I didn't have to be perfect at social interactions, that it was ok to lose and stay at the fourth division if I keep going to the matches. I applied this to my life and I started to work again few weesk ago and now, when I do everything wrong and come home depressed, I think like a soccer coach, not like a suicide person.
I think that I'm just a weak team that wants to go to first division, and I will do like weak teams do, they play and fight every single year.
No more avoidance after that.
I even drive my car to a very crowded shopping at my city and I went very badly, I admit. It was a 5x0 loss. But I can play again next week, can't I?
Hope this insight help someone, because something has really changed in me.
Cheers.