RND_CHR
Well-known member
Hey guys,
I know being assertive is a problem a lot of people have, even people outside of this forum. It's hard to tell when to be assertive and it's hard to hurt other people's feelings. I've always faulted myself for not doing it when I needed to and consequentially, I allowed myself to get taken advantage of. But I had a big problem recently with a roommate not paying rent. It really wasn't my problem, it was another roommates problem but he couldn't take care of it so I did. I talked it over a lot, and I decided to kick out the roommate who was not paying rent. The first time I talked to him about rent, I couldnt do it. But i kept getting madder, and over the next few days, I told him I was kicking him out and got my money back that he owed me for covering his rent. Since then, my friendship with him has improved so much. He's much nicer to me now. I dont think I could do it again, but atleast I did it and don't have anything to feel bad about because if anything, things are better now. All I'm saying is that even though I have days where i feel like a coward for not talking to girls, at least I have this and hopefully it'll help me at some point. It was hard and I made mistakes doing it but it gave me more self resepect.
I know being assertive is a problem a lot of people have, even people outside of this forum. It's hard to tell when to be assertive and it's hard to hurt other people's feelings. I've always faulted myself for not doing it when I needed to and consequentially, I allowed myself to get taken advantage of. But I had a big problem recently with a roommate not paying rent. It really wasn't my problem, it was another roommates problem but he couldn't take care of it so I did. I talked it over a lot, and I decided to kick out the roommate who was not paying rent. The first time I talked to him about rent, I couldnt do it. But i kept getting madder, and over the next few days, I told him I was kicking him out and got my money back that he owed me for covering his rent. Since then, my friendship with him has improved so much. He's much nicer to me now. I dont think I could do it again, but atleast I did it and don't have anything to feel bad about because if anything, things are better now. All I'm saying is that even though I have days where i feel like a coward for not talking to girls, at least I have this and hopefully it'll help me at some point. It was hard and I made mistakes doing it but it gave me more self resepect.