jschuley
Active member
I have social anxiety disorder and it has been particularly distressing lately. I have a job in which I work on the weekends in a factory, two eleven hour shifts at ten fifty five an hour. Not too bad. The problem is eleven hours is a long time, and I have a lot of time to be awkward around my coworkers. Fortunately I work with a small group, two guys and two girls including me. We are all in our twenties.
So this other girl is very outgoing and talkative and she has made it a point to reach out to me and hang out with me and talk to me and eat lunch and take her breaks with me. Also, we both walk to work and we live pretty close to each other so we walk home together. So I thought we were on the road to a real friendship, until this past weekend... Another girl showed up, she will be working with us and all of a sudden my work friend turned her attention to this other girl and started making conversation with her instead of me, so I tried to talk to the new girl myself a few times, but she did not seem very receptive to me. I felt jealous like I was back in junior high. Then this new girl started talking to the jockish quarterback who is only two years out of highschool. He had never talked much, just sort of done his job, but now he and the new girl and my work friend are all laughing and talking and I cannot think of joining the conversation. This jockish coworker is just the kind of guy that made me miserable in high school, and I am too intimidated to talk to him. So I was left out. I haven't felt so left out and isolated and afraid to join a conversation since high school. I thought that part of my life was over.
So I have to go back into work this weekend starting tomorrow morning and I am dreading it. Where does this leave me and my old work friend? Should I challenge myself and force myself to join their conversation, and go so far as to introduce myself to the jockish guy and try to talk to him? I just don't want to feel like I did last weekend again. I don't want to be left out. Of course, I could be rejected. They could be standoffish and visibly judge me. I could not know what to say or stutter or say something incorrectly or nervously. I am just so fucked up, and it is very painful.
On top of this, my one true friend in this world, my gay best friend with whom I live, seems to be not connecting with me like he usually does... I don't know. It's like there has been awkwardness between us which is never the case. never. and that is greatly distressing to me. If I lost him I would lose the only person I feel truly close to, who knows me. Whatever there is to know of me. I feel like I'm not a whole person because I've been crippled by this disorder...
Can anyone relate?
So this other girl is very outgoing and talkative and she has made it a point to reach out to me and hang out with me and talk to me and eat lunch and take her breaks with me. Also, we both walk to work and we live pretty close to each other so we walk home together. So I thought we were on the road to a real friendship, until this past weekend... Another girl showed up, she will be working with us and all of a sudden my work friend turned her attention to this other girl and started making conversation with her instead of me, so I tried to talk to the new girl myself a few times, but she did not seem very receptive to me. I felt jealous like I was back in junior high. Then this new girl started talking to the jockish quarterback who is only two years out of highschool. He had never talked much, just sort of done his job, but now he and the new girl and my work friend are all laughing and talking and I cannot think of joining the conversation. This jockish coworker is just the kind of guy that made me miserable in high school, and I am too intimidated to talk to him. So I was left out. I haven't felt so left out and isolated and afraid to join a conversation since high school. I thought that part of my life was over.
So I have to go back into work this weekend starting tomorrow morning and I am dreading it. Where does this leave me and my old work friend? Should I challenge myself and force myself to join their conversation, and go so far as to introduce myself to the jockish guy and try to talk to him? I just don't want to feel like I did last weekend again. I don't want to be left out. Of course, I could be rejected. They could be standoffish and visibly judge me. I could not know what to say or stutter or say something incorrectly or nervously. I am just so fucked up, and it is very painful.
On top of this, my one true friend in this world, my gay best friend with whom I live, seems to be not connecting with me like he usually does... I don't know. It's like there has been awkwardness between us which is never the case. never. and that is greatly distressing to me. If I lost him I would lose the only person I feel truly close to, who knows me. Whatever there is to know of me. I feel like I'm not a whole person because I've been crippled by this disorder...
Can anyone relate?