Attraction guide , thing :P

Hi basically i use to be useless when it comes to girls , i still am to a degree but ive basically figured out a lot about relationships etc Scientifically :).

Hope it helps someone out there , this is in rough but here goes.
( THIS IS NOT 100% ACCURATE THERES PROBABLY STUFF THATS WRONG IN IT BUT YOUR WELCOME TO RESEARCH IT I JUST WANT TO HELP SOME PEOPLE OR INTREST SOME PEOPLE NOT WRITE A SCIENCE BOOK) :p

Basically all attraction and relationships is a human survival mechanism like most behaviours in life. If we werent attracted to people we wouldnt survive and carry offspring and our gene would die out.

So humans are attracted to features which would enable them to have carry offpsring for example.
( EVERYONE HAS THERE OWN TASTE AND VARIATIONS ON WHAT PEOPLE ARE ATTRACTED TO THIS IS A BASIC OVERVIEW)
The basic equation to mens physical attractiveness is Testosterone ( Which is basically the MAN hormone) Testosterone stimulates muscle growth , and all the attractive facial features in men ( Low brow , square jaw , squared face )

Men Physical Features which are seen as attractive ( a few examples): Generally strong
( Muscles , big frame , tall (useful for fighting tigers and surviving , so the caveman can bring back food for the cavewoman) ). Low brow ( shows high testosterone) , square jaw ( shows high testosterone ) , sloping shoulders ( Shows strength ). Also something im not too sure about but men with rugged skin seem to be found attractive by a fair few woman ive met.

Woman (A few examples): High eyebrows(Shows high oestrogen) , big breasts(Shows high oestrogen + ample milk for offspring) , curved figure (Woman with curved figures are less likely to have difficult childbirths , a plump behind ( ample fat reserves incase the caveman was unable to bring back food).

Right now some of you may be thinking ( I DONT HAVE ANY OF THOSE FEATURES OH IM DOOMED FOR LIFE ): Nope , regarding men , Men with higher testosterone are more likely to go off with other girls , meanwhile men with more oestrogen based features are less likely too (A very attractive thing for woman as a lot of them are fed up with disloyal blokes!)

Regarding woman i speak from my own point of view ( and probably a lot of other blokes): Im not too fussy regarding the attraction side i admit i do have a few features that i would prefer and certainly get my attention but its the personality that counts.
( OH IVE HEARD THAT SO OFTEN BUT ITS NOT TRUE ) Well it is. In the long term who would you rather be with ,a good looking person who was a total **** or someone you loved being around ( Like a good friend ) but in a love kinda way :p.

This is for blokes : A tip ive found regarding if you can tell if a woman is attracted to you , she avoids eye contact , but looks at you if she can without being seen looking at you by yourself.
She plays or touches her hair
She looks at her reflection in her phone
She looks nervous
Licks her lips
Does her makeup ( this is more of a office thing ) Say if i just started working in a office and a girl liked me , the next day she would perhaps wear more makeup to get my attention.
Girls LOVE confidence its a very attractive feature , whos more likely to fight a tiger , a confident guy or someone whos shy , i know this may seem hard for a lot of you guys but it really helps so much.

And if your not confident i know lots of girls who think shy guys are really cute. Especially when they put the effort in despite being shy. Then you can ask yourself the question , whos more likely to fight a tiger , someone who goes against everything his mind is telling him to get the thing he wants , or somebody who doesnt.

Uhhh well thats it , hope it helps some people out or atleast makes somebody intrested and is a good read :p.

Sorry about the english aswell i typed this out in a hurry as i have work tommorow.

Im sure theres gonna be a lot of people correcting me but w/e i dont even visit this site that often so your welcome to be mean im use to it but this is just my opinion so take that at hand and i just want to maybe help some people out. Ill try and expand it if anyones intrested or they can chat to me about it on minichat its cool either way.
 

Orion's Hound

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Not a bad basic guide. No need to feel self conscious or anything. I am not judging on that point as I often take the very same "Not if I blow it up first" approach to posting things or showing off artwork, pre-emptively character assassinating myself before anyone else can.

That said, sounds basically sound and a good compilation of stuff I have read spread out around the web. Of course, man is a peculiar animal not fully under the thrall of instinct so one can never truly say what is or isn't going to be attractive - only make generalities. I am pretty sure most evolutionary biologists would be hard pressed to discover the evolutionary underpinnings of Dutch scat porn, BDSM, and other outliers in the sexual schema that makes up human interaction. Still, general ground rules make the whole affair more manageable.

As for attraction signs from a girl, the first one works for more shy girls but mileage may still vary. I was friends with a girl once who pinned my arms to my side with her legs and aggressively snuggled into me as a means of letting me know she liked me. I still kick myself over not acting on that but I was in middle school and I think she liked making me blush. Still, general confidence is attractive for men and women. You don't have to be life of the party, just be firm in your stances on things and who you are. Do things you enjoy - I am most confident when I am drawing or painting because I know I am good at those things.
 
yeh i agree man , attraction is such a wild thing and its so varied its hard to pinpoint it , everyone has their own taste , im just tryin to get the basic framework down , that basically men are wanted to feed and protect a woman , and a woman is there to provide children. Well atleast from a caveman prospective which is how our basic thoughtprocess stems from. And i think attraction kinda revolves around those two basic facts
But yeh i was tempted not too post it cause id seem like a fool :p too late now :p
 

Orion's Hound

Active member
Not foolish, or no more foolish than Socrates and Aristotle. It is mankind's constant destiny to try to reach out into the chaotic tempest around us and create islands of firmament. Superstition, philosophy, science, it is all about trying to carve a small island in the rough sea of reality. Nothing scarier than being faced with the reality that we know precious little and our lives are outside of our control.

So long as your lust for this order doesn't become so all encompassing that you impose it at the dereliction of open mindedness and willingness to accept that you might be wrong, you are fine I think.

People are fascinating to be sure. I have come to really love their chaos, in a way. At least it is never boring in this life.
 
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