Anybody over 40?
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BreakingFree
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Our experiences are so similar that age does not matter. Who can tell age by faceless communication?
Btw, I am 42 years young, but stopped having b'days. Nice to know there are SPs around of similar age. What have we been doing to be all alone and battling at this age? Shoooo! :wink:
Btw, I am 42 years young, but stopped having b'days. Nice to know there are SPs around of similar age. What have we been doing to be all alone and battling at this age? Shoooo! :wink:
BreakingFree
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Anybody of 40
Blade, I finally get it. It would be nice to communicate with your own age group. But the topics I read regardless of age I can say this is me!
Blade, I finally get it. It would be nice to communicate with your own age group. But the topics I read regardless of age I can say this is me!
Blade said:
I found that this forum helps alot. Check this out, theres a Over 30s section
http://www.social-anxiety-community.org/db/
BreakingFree
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Just out of interest. What career paths are the over 40s following?
I am a clerk. Prospects for promotion is zero. With no social skills there is no hope of ever holding a managerial post. Its hard and extremely traumatic. I am capable, but....
I hope to change my life for the better. I have started CBT and I am going to work hard, or should I say try?
I am a clerk. Prospects for promotion is zero. With no social skills there is no hope of ever holding a managerial post. Its hard and extremely traumatic. I am capable, but....
I hope to change my life for the better. I have started CBT and I am going to work hard, or should I say try?
sabbath92003
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BreakingFree said:
Good luck with the CBT. When I tried it, it made me worse. Instead, I found acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and it's made all the difference. The main difference is CBT wants you to change your thoughts but ACT wants you to just notice them.
By the way, I'm a computer programmer. I was going to study engineering but social anxiety disorder sidetracked my studies and career. Now I'm trying to update my skills for the internet age, and hoping to get back on track to world domination
nandito
Member
You guys should have your own forum, but I would also encourage you to share your experiences, specially in what have you tried for your SA, what did work and what didn't, what jobs are good for people like us, etc.
I've been attending some SA groups, and I've seen the progress of teenagers helped by senior members, that otherwise would have been in a very bad shape in the next 10 years. All of this with no cost, better than psychotherapy.
I know you want to get better, but also you would feel better by helping others.
Cheers.
I've been attending some SA groups, and I've seen the progress of teenagers helped by senior members, that otherwise would have been in a very bad shape in the next 10 years. All of this with no cost, better than psychotherapy.
I know you want to get better, but also you would feel better by helping others.
Cheers.
Lumsdale
Member
I am forty and its been one hell of a journey. I just learned to cope as best I could and got through it all with little or no support other than counselling and medication. I really only identified my problem as SA about 5years ago and that was a big step forward for me. A forum for us oldies would be good, because we face some different issues.
Blade
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Hi there , just popped back to see if anything has changed , ive have tried allsorts , am still am trying , finding it very hard though , luckily work is good and as i employ a few bods now i dont have to do any meetings etc , tried all sorts of medication and therapy , not sure there is a cure TBH , any older peeps 35ish + wanna talk ill be more than happy , i,m 46 , not that i have anything against younger peeps but i just cant talk about these things with people that are the same age as my kids !
Blade
, not sure there is a cure TBH , any older peeps 35ish + wanna talk ill be more than happy , i,m 46 , not that i have anything against younger peeps but i just cant talk about these things with people that are the same age as my kids ! Blade
lonely_world
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32 :wink:
Xos
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I am 39 , 40 within 2 months and my phobia is worse than it used to be :roll:
Sometimes i convince myself that this social anxiety will disappear someday, but other days i am scared of growing older and older this way.
I have tried a psychologist for 8 months but it didn' t work and now i' m not motivated at all, anyway, i think i have to look for another one, a good one this time. :roll:
Sometimes i convince myself that this social anxiety will disappear someday, but other days i am scared of growing older and older this way.
I have tried a psychologist for 8 months but it didn' t work and now i' m not motivated at all, anyway, i think i have to look for another one, a good one this time. :roll:
Primrose
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AnxiousGuy said:
Couldn't agree more. I'm 34 and there is a different kind of pressure and intensity involved.
Wanting to be a parent (particularly if you are a woman) is incredibly challenging.
Sometimes you feel that you have a very limited time to get things right whereas someone much younger has time to make a few mistakes.