Anybody made it through uni? or tried?

[coriander1992]

Heyy
I am basically just wondering wether anybody with SA has managed to make it through university? how did you find it? what was hard? what was easy?
I want to go to uni, but I am sooo scared it is unreal. :roll:
The uni is only 40 mins away from my house but I freak out at the thought of all those people and living on my own, gaahhh!
Distance learning is allways another option, but what puts me off is the length of time it will take to do it that way..most likely 5 years as oppose to 3 if I work at an average pace..
Just need some success stories pleeeaaase !

 

[Moonie]

I've made it through college just fine (graduated May 2007.) It was actually not bad at all, except for one class (PUBLIC SPEAKING.) All schools have different gen. ed. requirements, and this one happened to have public speaking. I did not know that beforehand, or else, I'd have looked somewhere else, lol. I went to a fairly big schools (10,000-13,000 students) so there were some larger lecture classes where I could sort of just blend in, without much interaction. But, there are some presentations and group work in the smaller ones, but it was in a comfortable atmosphere. At first it is a little new and stressful. But, that goes for everybody. It will get easier after the first year.

 

[SocialRetahd]

I spent hours in my car by myself inbetween classes.

Fuck those people.

 

[phoenix1]

Haha oh god the public speaking class. I had that requirement as well. I think I blocked that experience out of my mind. Besides that one class, my university experience wasnt that bad either. I was extremely socially phobic at the time too. I think people in univeristy are alot less judgemental than highschool, so its not nearly as bad.

You can do a lot of class shuffling as well. Some teachers are crazy about class participation and presentations, others arn't. Its not too difficult to find the ones that are easier to get by. There will always be presentations and group work once in a while, and they are a painful, but nothing like highschool where your life seem to depend on your peers. Everyone in college has their own lives (even families and kids) and everyone simply goes their own ways afterwards. The environment just feels alot less stressed.

 

[WhiskeyJack]

I went to college when i was 18 but only lasted about 3 months. I was way out of my depth. I enjoyed the course but i didnt know anybody there and i felt like a fool waiting outside classes on my own, so i started skipping a few and after awhile stopped going altogther.
I did return to a different college when i was 21. I was the youngest in the class and i really enjoyed my 2 years there. Much more relaxed and a good bunch of people.

 

[jamez]

I half heartedly went to uni for about a year a few years ago. Didn't really work out, couldn't make friends, didn't want to study, so yea it didn't work out too well. Been working since december last year and it's nice to make some money, and waste it I guess. I am thinking of possibly returning to studying in a college though and in a different field as well possibly next year.

 

[IceLad]

I stayed at home while studying for a degree.

I totally compromised on the choice of degree/ university just so I could stay at home, and to be honest, that's one of my main regrets in life.

On the other hand, I limited the amount of debt I built up, and as there were only 20-25 students overall, it was much easier getting to know people.

I survived the worst bits- the presentations and seminars, and my graduation day turned out to be one of the best days of my life!

I wish you luck coriander1992!

8) 8)

 

[coriander1992]

Hi everybody, thank you all for sharing your stories!
IceLad I think I am probably going to be staying home while at uni too, but luckily the uni closest to me does do the degree I want.
I'm sorry that it didn't work out well for some of you, best of luck with the future
thanks again

 

[coriander1992]

I tried but lets just say it didn't work out!
I'm studying with the Open University now but I massively regret the fact that I couldn't cope long enough to graduate first time around. I have wasted so much of my life.

aww IceQueen just think of it this way, at least you are still trying to graduate, you haven't given up, so go you!

 

[Vincent]

This is my second time around at varsity.

The first time, I didnt know what was wrong with me. I knew I was depressed and didn't know why. I didn't know what SA was or that I had it. I studied things that didn't inspire me either, and didn't do well.

This is my second run at it. I'm learning things I hope will help with my SA. That is, I am studying psychology, so that I might be able to understand how people behave and learn how to control my thoughts.

I feel alone often on campus. I sit by myself and stare at happy people socialising. Next year I will transfer to a new University and I won't know anyone there.

I guess things are better this time around. I'm managed to talk to some people and don't feel as self conscious in lectures, until I realise that I'm staring and making people uncomfortable.

I think I'm on the right path now, with my choice of studies. Perhaps when I start at a different University next year things will be better still, as it won't be reliving the past.

 

[SYNAPSE]

I went through it in total social isolation. I think people shunned and ignored me more than whatever shyness I could have had (and I did prove shy for many things). People would ignore me and I didn't get invited to stuff. Some people were actually very hostile to me for no apparent reason, others alright; most of them I didn't understand at all. My performance follwed my mood swings.

I'm studying for my post-graduate degree and while people are a bit more polite the same thing seems to be happening overall. I was happier the first days but now it's like everyone has developed a circle of relationships and I'm isolated. I don't try to speak to anyone either; I feel I have nothing I could talk about with them.