LUEshi
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Ok, here's my situation. For perspective, I'm 15 and a sophomore in High School. There's this girl in some of my classes that I like. I'm not really that close with her, as we don't really talk much. We have a good number of classes that we're in together, and a few more where we share teachers, but we're in different periods. I'm trying not to fall into the trap of past years where there will be one girl that I'm really attracted to, but I never talk to because I'm so shy. I'll talk to her about school things, for example asking what we're doing in spanish today (We have the same teacher, but she has the class earlier than me) The only time she's really talked to me about anything else is when she ofund out I was in a band, and we talked about that for a little while, and she seemed genuinely interested. However, I don't want to fall into another trap of only talking about school, but I don't know what to do. I don't think she dislikes me, she smile when talking a lot, but she'll never initiate conversation with me.
Now, looking at it from a logical point of view, which nevers seems to have much power in these matters, it's not that she dislikes me. When I think about it, sh seems pretty shy. In a lull in class, when there's free time to talk, a lot of kids will just get into conversations about stuff. I'm more of a quiet type, so I'm mostly silent in these times of situations. It's not that I would mind talking to anyone if someone starts talking to me, but unless I have sopmething to say, I won't actively seek anyone. She seems like this to, at least in classes she's in with me. Other people might start talking to her, but not much. Now, this should seem like the perfect time to start up a conversation with her. I'm scared that she might think me wierd for talking to her, when the most our friendship is is just talking about school related stuff. Yeah, I know I'm a mess when it comes to self-confidence, and itt's something I'm trying to change.
The main problem is that I think that by talking to her too much, and seemingly out of knowhere, she'll know that I like her. :/ I've been this way for a looong time. Since 4th grade or maybe even below, I've always had a problem with letting people know my feelings in this area, even my guy friends. I've always had a wall of insecurity and I w ouldn't talk about it, even when prodded. There's only a certain few that I can be honest with.
Now, looking at it from a logical point of view, which nevers seems to have much power in these matters, it's not that she dislikes me. When I think about it, sh seems pretty shy. In a lull in class, when there's free time to talk, a lot of kids will just get into conversations about stuff. I'm more of a quiet type, so I'm mostly silent in these times of situations. It's not that I would mind talking to anyone if someone starts talking to me, but unless I have sopmething to say, I won't actively seek anyone. She seems like this to, at least in classes she's in with me. Other people might start talking to her, but not much. Now, this should seem like the perfect time to start up a conversation with her. I'm scared that she might think me wierd for talking to her, when the most our friendship is is just talking about school related stuff. Yeah, I know I'm a mess when it comes to self-confidence, and itt's something I'm trying to change.
The main problem is that I think that by talking to her too much, and seemingly out of knowhere, she'll know that I like her. :/ I've been this way for a looong time. Since 4th grade or maybe even below, I've always had a problem with letting people know my feelings in this area, even my guy friends. I've always had a wall of insecurity and I w ouldn't talk about it, even when prodded. There's only a certain few that I can be honest with.