Shakey
Member
I posted here about a month ago about my anxiety about dating. Well, I have been going out with the same guy over the past month, numerous times, and each time my anxiety gets less and less.
In fact, whereas in past dating situations I would go out with a guy once or twice before running away (metaphorically), now I actually find myself *missing* this guy when I don't get to talk to him.
Which brings up a whole new anxiety of - am I annoying him? I sometimes think I am, and then he says something sweet that makes me think, oh, okay, it's alright, I'm not annoying him! How much contact is too much contact?!
We ring each other 3ish times a week, go on at least one date a week, and send messages each night on facebook. Is that too much? Should there be days when I don't contact him at all? It's not me doing all the contacting, either.
Thing is, I can actually see myself being in a relationship with this guy (and that's never happened to me before - I'm 25). I don't want to stuff it up by being too 'clingy', if that's what I'm being in the first place!
Can anyone offer some advice, please?
In fact, whereas in past dating situations I would go out with a guy once or twice before running away (metaphorically), now I actually find myself *missing* this guy when I don't get to talk to him.
Which brings up a whole new anxiety of - am I annoying him? I sometimes think I am, and then he says something sweet that makes me think, oh, okay, it's alright, I'm not annoying him! How much contact is too much contact?!
We ring each other 3ish times a week, go on at least one date a week, and send messages each night on facebook. Is that too much? Should there be days when I don't contact him at all? It's not me doing all the contacting, either.
Thing is, I can actually see myself being in a relationship with this guy (and that's never happened to me before - I'm 25). I don't want to stuff it up by being too 'clingy', if that's what I'm being in the first place!
Can anyone offer some advice, please?