Anger and Shyness

[Josh5339]

I definitely have an anger issue. Mostly aimed at my absent father though. Sometimes that can go to absolute primal, carnal rage. It's scary. But, other than that I try to hold it all in - just, try not to Hulk out... which happens sometimes.

 

[limetree]

I get angry at wrongs done to me but I also get very angry about wrongs done to other people. I am good at working up a rightous rage. Alas, it doesn't translate into charity. For instance, I'm liable to work myself up into a fury over the treatment of the homeless, but do I actually donate time to help them? Nope.

This. Sometimes it seems I feel things more intensely than those who are able to keep a clear enough mind to work on a rational, practical solution.

I was raised by a very placid, even tempered mother who taught me that suppressing anger was a virtue. Ofc that led to me bottling things up which leads to the occasional volatile reaction directed at family. I can become very defensive when people don't respect my sensitivity, especially when they criticize me tactlessly.

 

[da_illest101]

I have never hurt anyone in my life and I never would. I am very careful with other people's feelings.

But...I am also a very angry person. No-one knows. I bottle it up. Recently, two female co-workers were laughing at the very idea of me being angry - they couldn't even imagine such a thing.

I wonder if this is common or not? Is my secret rage linked to my shyness?

I get angry at wrongs done to me but I also get very angry about wrongs done to other people. I am good at working up a rightous rage. Alas, it doesn't translate into charity. For instance, I'm liable to work myself up into a fury over the treatment of the homeless, but do I actually donate time to help them? Nope.

yo i'm exactly like that, everyone think i'm the kindest guy ever, it's like i can't let out my anger, unless i'm alone

 

[Tempus35]

Anger, it is an evil I lock away. I agree, I am the same, I get angry alot but never do anything about it, and I would never hurt anyone.

 

[beachdreamer78]

I have this too!
I find that my anger is related to my anxiety.
For example, I have two part time jobs. One job there is hardly any anxiety. The other, wow. I get paid very little, can't get a staff parking spot, and some of my co-workers are very annoying. And a friend of mine said that she noticed that I've been expressing anger so much...

I never saw a connection until now...

 

[Tempus35]

i think that's because you keep everything inside. you have to let it go, there's nothing wrong with anger, you have to yell out loud if you need it. whatever you do, don't hold it inside. that'll just make you even more angry with age.

True, the thing is that you don't want to let it out on others, and this is a twof-fold loop. You are angry at someone, but wont tell them because of SP you are to shy to speak up, so you hold it in, which makes your SP slightly worse at times.