an experiment

[dzerklis]

i been thinking about this: what if i quit using internet for socialising. although i'm quite asocial, i still have some need for social contact and the internet works perfectly for that, but the problem is its not 'real' for me because unlike some other SAers i dont get any anxiety online. maybe if i quit internet i would get an urge for human contact at some point and would have to force myself to do something about it. there was a period of time right after college and before i got internet when i used to get very lonely and sad but didnt have courage to take any steps. since that time my SA has lessened a little and i can bear more than i could. i can return to internet whenever and spend the rest of my life here lol but maybe this experiment is worth trying. i have made some online friends during the past few years, but its not like i would leave forever. would anyone else consider trying this or has done that before?

 

[JonnyD]

good luck ... what you plan to do? it would be good to have something to spen your time while not on the web, socially and alone.

i live in this stuff , i have nothing else to do in my life besides the internet, my job is the internet, that must be why i failed when i tryed.

 

[dzerklis]

i would still spend lots of time by computer watching movies, gaming and listening to music. the best thing would be getting some hobby that involves other people..

 

[danstelter]

It sounds like an all right idea, but I think it would be best if you viewed the net as your "failsafe," the place where you go when all else fails. Otherwise, you are cutting off your only social support. I think that it would be best instead to challenge yourself in real life to do the things that you are afraid to do, and then report the results here, where friends can give you support and guidance if you are struggling or lost.

Being desperate could push you out into the real world, but people would probably sense your desperation and be afraid to come in contact with you. It's better to go out knowing you have somewhere safe to return to in case of failure. However, I do like the idea that you are challening yourself to move out, just be careful when doing so.