Hi,
Basically, I am involved with someone with avoidant personality disorder. At first, it was all new to me, very confusing, and I admit, I didn't understand it at all! :question:
Anyway, since then, I have done a HUGE amount of research on the subject, plus I have the experience of dealing with the person I am involved with.
I would just really like to ask, if anyone has any advice on how I can be some kind of support to him?
It's really difficult... if I show that I care too much, try to give advice etc, he retreats into his shell and doesn't want to know. Yet, when he has felt comfortable himself, and brought it up himself, on his own terms, he has managed to share things with me. I feel really privileged that he has been able to trust me enough, to talk to me about these things, even if only very little.
It's just hard because I love and care for this person so much, that I want to be able to help, reassure etc.... but if I demonstrate TOO much love for him, he freaks out and does a runner!
I just wonder what kind of support you would like, from someone like me, if you were in our shoes? :question:
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Basically, I am involved with someone with avoidant personality disorder. At first, it was all new to me, very confusing, and I admit, I didn't understand it at all! :question:
Anyway, since then, I have done a HUGE amount of research on the subject, plus I have the experience of dealing with the person I am involved with.
I would just really like to ask, if anyone has any advice on how I can be some kind of support to him?
It's really difficult... if I show that I care too much, try to give advice etc, he retreats into his shell and doesn't want to know. Yet, when he has felt comfortable himself, and brought it up himself, on his own terms, he has managed to share things with me. I feel really privileged that he has been able to trust me enough, to talk to me about these things, even if only very little.
It's just hard because I love and care for this person so much, that I want to be able to help, reassure etc.... but if I demonstrate TOO much love for him, he freaks out and does a runner!
I just wonder what kind of support you would like, from someone like me, if you were in our shoes? :question:
Any help would be greatly appreciated.