A Therapist and her Stupid Question

[ljwwriter]

I've just started seeing a new therapist to help me try and get a handle on my social anxiety so that I can become a normal, functioning, productive adult (my parents idea of course). Anyway, last week during my session I was telling my therapist about how hard it is for me in social situations, especially when it comes to working evironments. I was trying to explain to her how I couldn't be a cashier or sales person because I break out in cold (and very obvious) sweats and tremble and all that when having to deal with customers, which of course is all a salesperson's job consists of.

I thought things would click into place pretty obviously for her when I was explaining about the sweating and how terribly humuliating it is, but the single, simple question she asked when I had finished talking made it clear that she didn't quite get it. She asked me "Why do you care?"
It seemed like such a brain dead question to me. Why do I care how people look at me and perceive me when my face is getting all sweaty and my nervousness becomes so highly visible that I have no hope in hell of hiding it? Why do I care if people look at me strangely, or make comments about me standing only a few feet away? Why do I care when my voice cracks and my mind is such a muddled mess that I can't even count out correct change? The better question is how can I NOT care? It's absolutely humuliating and it only makes the next day on the job or whereever I am harder.
I just thought it was such a stupid question. Why do I care? :roll: Yeah I wish I didn't, but it's impossibile not to.

 

[El_nino]

Your therapist obviously doesnt understand the condition, which i hear is true of many other therapists. You need to find a therapist that does, that therapist cant cure something she doesnt have a clue about.
I hope it works out for you anyways