There is hope!
Hi guys,
THERE IS HOPE
I had given up on finding love. I thought it was a lost cause as i too didnt have any confidence to do anything, let alone go on a DATE!
Then my life changed - I got help! I had cognitive behavioural therapy sessions (no medication) and i started to test myself slowly and try new things. I had setbacks, some bad, some aweful, but i progressed.
I moved into a 'house share' and one of my flatmates was a wonderful, sociable, good looking guy. He was dating another girl at the time. Then they broke up and we got closer, just hanging out, me always keeping my distance. The key was that he took it slow too and he eventually asked me out for dinner. I was petrified, but told myself, that if i dont do this now, i never will, and the positives far outweigh the negatives. I was very guarded and (lucky for me) he is very talkative and that helped. I was able to open up and share some of my life with him. That was 4 years ago and we are now married. I had MAJOR anxiety about the wedding, almost calling it off and almost eloping to an island (just the 2 of us) but again, the positives outweighed the negatives and i decided to have a normal ceremonly in front of 80 guests! Another proud moment. I still have problems (obviously), but with the CBT techniques it gets easier to cope over time.
Good luck to you, you can do it, i never thought there was hope for me. I was 94kgs when i met my husband (im 5foot 9) so wasnt very attractive being overweight, but went down to 70kgs when we started dating (out of happiness)
I take omega 3 fish oils (good quality ones) and i go to the gym 3 times per week to keep me positive.
Sarah xx