45 and blushing
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jayo
Well-known member
Hi Blade
I can relate to the blushing part and difficulty in meetings.
I'm a Company Accountant and sometimes feel like a bag of nerves at meetings.
Sometimes I'm really confident as well - I wish I could control all the time.
CBT, discs help with this but you need to give it half an hour a day.
J
I can relate to the blushing part and difficulty in meetings.
I'm a Company Accountant and sometimes feel like a bag of nerves at meetings.
Sometimes I'm really confident as well - I wish I could control all the time.
CBT, discs help with this but you need to give it half an hour a day.
J
. People are always asking me if I feel alright, and giving me weird looks. They probably also think I drink -- lots of people get a red face when they drink alcohol.
herringman1
Active member
same with me ..started when i was 12 years old..i am now 61 and it hasen't got any better..3 marriages..no friends..total nightmareBlade said:
erdie
New member
I'm 41 and am still blushing. I thought that I had stopped as I hadn't noticed it for many years until a couple of years ago when someone asked me a perfectly innocent question in work about where I was going for holiday and I went red. This has stopped me applying for loads of jobs that I know I am able to do but am scared about going red and losing my confidence.
sas
Member
still blushing
Yeh it started for me at 12 years also. I blush when I'm anxious, so that is often. I'm 36 years and these days focus less on my blushing generally but do have nightmare situations that can set me off big time. I've found that when I focus less on blushing that I develop other behaviours like shaky hands when holding a drink, or my emotions go out of control.
I haven't taken CBT seriously but see that this has been a very big mistake on my part. I know that if I'm too busy to think or focused on something else that I don't think of blushing and am less likely to blush.
Yeh it started for me at 12 years also. I blush when I'm anxious, so that is often. I'm 36 years and these days focus less on my blushing generally but do have nightmare situations that can set me off big time. I've found that when I focus less on blushing that I develop other behaviours like shaky hands when holding a drink, or my emotions go out of control.
I haven't taken CBT seriously but see that this has been a very big mistake on my part. I know that if I'm too busy to think or focused on something else that I don't think of blushing and am less likely to blush.
Pink2008
New member
I´m 31 and blush sometimes. If it happens at work, I hate it. There is a co-worker, and it seems to be a learned behavior that I blush if I see him all the time. I think its because I blushed once when he was in the room and now it happens always when I see him. I hate it. He probably thinks I like him. Well I do, but there is no f... reason to blush. Or it happens at a Restaurant...and I´m there with my boyfriend and there is a cute waiter. I think that my boyfriend thinks that I find the waiter attractive, and this thought alone makes me uncomfortable, because my boyfriend is the only one for me! My boyfriend will ask me why I blushed, and I reply with, its kinda hot in here ...haha...it´s a freaky mindgame I wanna get rid of!!! There r situations when I expect to blush but I dont, e.g. in front of a class for a presentation. Maybe more interaction with people will help, to "train" the brain to be more relaxed...
Pink2008
New member
I´m 31 and blush sometimes. If it happens at work, I hate it. There is a co-worker, and it seems to be a learned behavior that I blush if I see him all the time. I think its because I blushed once when he was in the room and now it happens always when I see him. I hate it. He probably thinks I like him. Well I do, but there is no f... reason to blush. Or it happens at a Restaurant...and I´m there with my boyfriend and there is a cute waiter. I think that my boyfriend thinks that I find the waiter attractive, and this thought alone makes me uncomfortable, because my boyfriend is the only one for me! My boyfriend will ask me why I blushed, and I reply with, its kinda hot in here ...haha...it´s a freaky mindgame I wanna get rid of!!! There r situations when I expect to blush but I dont, e.g. in front of a class for a presentation. Maybe more interaction with people will help, to "train" the brain to be more relaxed...
blushingblond
New member
beet red
It's amazing to read everyone's stories. I'm in the same boat. I get nervous and turn beet red in meetings for no particular reason. It doesn't matter if it's a small group or larger group. Even 1 on 1 for no reason at all I can turn red. It's made my boss and his boss uncomfortable to ask me anything. I've had this problem since high school, and somehow have dealt with it. I've changed jobs a number of times, and mostly related to this condition. I finally have a job I really love and I'm afraid if I don't figure out what to do about it soon it's going hurt my changes to move up. I just started taking Zoloft. I had been taking klonopin as needed, with some success, but you can't always plan when something will make you turn red. I'm also going to try hypnosis. I figure between all of these something has to work soon! I have a 13 year old daughter that I believe hasthe same problem, so I need to figure out something for me, so I can help her. If anyone has any success stories I'd love to hear them. Thanks
It's amazing to read everyone's stories. I'm in the same boat. I get nervous and turn beet red in meetings for no particular reason. It doesn't matter if it's a small group or larger group. Even 1 on 1 for no reason at all I can turn red. It's made my boss and his boss uncomfortable to ask me anything. I've had this problem since high school, and somehow have dealt with it. I've changed jobs a number of times, and mostly related to this condition. I finally have a job I really love and I'm afraid if I don't figure out what to do about it soon it's going hurt my changes to move up. I just started taking Zoloft. I had been taking klonopin as needed, with some success, but you can't always plan when something will make you turn red. I'm also going to try hypnosis. I figure between all of these something has to work soon! I have a 13 year old daughter that I believe hasthe same problem, so I need to figure out something for me, so I can help her. If anyone has any success stories I'd love to hear them. Thanks