I met my boyfriend through some mutual friends of ours. We didn't actually start dating until about 6 months later. I always thought he was nice, but wasn't convinced he was my type, until we started to spend more time together outside of our mutual friends, and started talking to each other on Facebook.
We finally took it to the next level when at a movie-watching party, I got slightly drunk and leant against him on the couch all night. To cut a long story short, the next week he rang and asked me on a date.
That was about three months ago and I'm still with him, and happy.
I've never been in a happy relationship before (I'm 25), and I've never been in a relationship longer than 4 months, but I feel like it will be longer than 4 months with this guy.
Yes, I told him about SA. My SA is only with dating, so it was a big thing for me to even accept a date- I do get asked out occasionally, and I usually accept, but after 2 dates I can't stand the anxiety and make excuses not to see the guy any more.
But there was something different about this guy - I was scared, but didn't want to run away. I had to have some counselling in the early part of the dating, which really helped, as did having supportive friends.
I actually told him after one date about SA - which really freaked him out, but after talking to his friends about it, he must have felt that he had seen more to me than just my SA (I also have OCD, which I have told him about - but my OCD is fairly under control). I have also had a panic attack in front of him, but even that didn't scare him off! I still get anxious when going to meet him, but I'm working on it, and the more I see him, the less anxious I become.
At the moment I'm dealing with fear of intimacy with him. But I'm taking it as it comes, taking my time, and building up my trust in him. He is very patient and seems understanding. I do tend to beat myself up about it though, but he says he likes me just as I am.
I don't want to run away from this, so I am just seeking answers to my confusion and anxiety as I need them. Reading helps, as does talking to both counsellors and friends.
What about you, The Wall? Do you have a boy/girlfriend?