The more you battle anxiety....the worse it gets?
- Thread starter Hurricane
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Aw that's a lovely metaphor for it
The_9th_passenger
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It's because you are still not prepared.
Don't try so hard. First you need to fix up little things which do not seem to have a connection to SA... but they have!
The first thing a psichologist will tell you is not to directly face socializing if you are not prepared for it. Your therapist will tell you to mend some wrong thoughts of your mind in the way you see thigs in life. For instance we SAers tend to think everyone wants to hurt us,and obviously that just can't be true... so it's a trick of our mind. And that is exactly what you first have to fight: the tricks of your own mind.
After you have cleaned up your mind from those wrong ideas you'll be able to improve your sociallizing skills as you stick at not running away from sociallizing, because the more practice you do on it the more experience, knowledge and resistance you'll have. (resistance against people's bad treating). This is a bit difficult for me to explain in your language but I hope you'll get the meaning.
Whatever you do, don't think you'll get easily rid of it...it won't fix up in just one day, you know...
Don't try so hard. First you need to fix up little things which do not seem to have a connection to SA... but they have!
The first thing a psichologist will tell you is not to directly face socializing if you are not prepared for it. Your therapist will tell you to mend some wrong thoughts of your mind in the way you see thigs in life. For instance we SAers tend to think everyone wants to hurt us,and obviously that just can't be true... so it's a trick of our mind. And that is exactly what you first have to fight: the tricks of your own mind.
After you have cleaned up your mind from those wrong ideas you'll be able to improve your sociallizing skills as you stick at not running away from sociallizing, because the more practice you do on it the more experience, knowledge and resistance you'll have. (resistance against people's bad treating). This is a bit difficult for me to explain in your language but I hope you'll get the meaning.
Whatever you do, don't think you'll get easily rid of it...it won't fix up in just one day, you know...
Hurricane
Well-known member
everything I do to battle social anxiety makes me feel worse, like it's signaling me: "I'm comfortable here, try to get rid of me and I'll make you feel worse"
I really tried everything out there...I think I should just accept it for what it is, learn to live with it...anxiety is a part of me, maybe it's time that I embrace it for what it is
I really tried everything out there...I think I should just accept it for what it is, learn to live with it...anxiety is a part of me, maybe it's time that I embrace it for what it is
The_9th_passenger
Well-known member
crazyfairyx said:
Aw that's a lovely metaphor for it
Yes, she said it beautyfully.
Another one I like very much is:
...cause nature has a funny way of breaking what does not bend.
I take it from a song tittled Kiss the Flame by Jewel.
Primus
Active member
I would say to try and battle it. Not all at once of course, unless you think thats best, but you have to battle it. Its a disorder caused by bad thinking, you simply need to adjust your thinking, and your behavior (anxiety and social avoidance) will change!
"
What we need is love ya'll
We don't need no more trouble
Speak happiness,
Your sad enough without your woes,
"
Listen to Bob Marley and realize you're so happy!
"
What we need is love ya'll
We don't need no more trouble
Speak happiness,
Your sad enough without your woes,
"
Listen to Bob Marley and realize you're so happy!
newshyguy
Well-known member
true
dont fight it , dont fight social anxiety, dont negate it either
the more you fight it, the stronger it becomes
just like you said, accept that you are anxious at that moment
the question is: "once you accept it , what your gona do then?"
its Ok to be anxious , is what you do with that feeling that counts , so dont hide that feeling
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much love to all shy homies and gals
dont fight it , dont fight social anxiety, dont negate it either
the more you fight it, the stronger it becomes
just like you said, accept that you are anxious at that moment
the question is: "once you accept it , what your gona do then?"
its Ok to be anxious , is what you do with that feeling that counts , so dont hide that feeling
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much love to all shy homies and gals
B
Well-known member
Hurricane said:
Worked for me. Over time I just became convinced that it was a hopeless situation, and all my beliefs kinda moulded themselves around it. As a result, all the pressure to "get over it" and "be normal" melted away because those things were impossible. It was at that point I actually saw the most improvement. That improvement is still going on.