stupid

I started talking to this guy on a dating site who seemed kind of shy and he said he hadn't been in too many relationships and stuff, so I figured "hey maybe this guy will understand" and I got excited about a possible friend. So then today I looked up his facebook and he had a million friends and pictures of him hugging girls and out drinking and everything. I just feel very stupid now. Stupid for getting my hopes up, and stupid for thinking someone like that would want me as a friend.
I kind of want to delete my profile off that site but it's 1. the only hope I have for making a friend and 2. the only way I can have an actual conversation.
I'm bored.

The only advice I can give you is don't believe everything anyone says. Especially on those sites. They often try and portray themselves as something they are not to suck people in. People prove who and what they are by their actions. People can say anything, doesn't mean it's the truth. So just take a step back from contact with people like that and take it with a grain of salt. You don't know these people from Adam so don't trust them.

You probably believed this person so readily because you wanted it to be true. But don't let that need for human understanding and contact cloud your judgement.
I guess it's a learning curve not to be so trusting and taken in by someone so quickly.

The only advice I can give you is don't believe everything anyone says. Especially on those sites. They often try and portray themselves as something they are not to suck people in. People prove who and what they are by their actions. People can say anything, doesn't mean it's the truth. So just take a step back from contact with people like that and take it with a grain of salt. You don't know these people from Adam so don't trust them.

You probably believed this person so readily because you wanted it to be true. But don't let that need for human understanding and contact cloud your judgement.
I guess it's a learning curve not to be so trusting and taken in by someone so quickly.

For making a friend, where? On the internet? Pashaw. You have more hope than you momentarily realize, kid. Trust me, and delete your account off that website right now. You can meet people in places much better.

And that sounds pretty cynical, ForeverBlue. Indeed, our actions are what define who we are. But if you never give someone a chance, how will you know their definition? :?

Take my fiancee, Trina, for instance. She is a nice, sometimes very shy, down to Earth--until you piss her off--type of person. I believe this, not only because she first told me this was how she was when we first got together, but in that I have actually seen her exhibit these very behaviors. I was worried a bit about her shyness at first, but I thought she was pretty and a good person, so I jumped in with both feet and took a chance on her. Likewise, she did the same for me, so I could prove to her I am someone she can trust and love, in return.

We have a wonderful relationship, together. But if I ever found even one picture of her partying it up, I would dump her in a heartbeat. Why? Because I would know right then the person I believed she was, was obviously NOT an accurate perception. More over, she's probably been lying to me about everything else too. That would be very bad.

The moral to this story is, give people a chance to shine for you. If you ever come to realize they might not, then . . . well, now you know. :wink:

It always heartbreaking when someone you thought you could relate to turns out to be a different person. Say now i talk to someone online and they seem shy then i realise that they more outgoing than me then i sort of go off them, i guess because i feel inferior to them.