Shy guy or not interested?

maddielol

Member
Hello. I am new to these forums and I am unsure if this is the right place.
But I possible may have a crush on a male that is love-shy.

I met him around late December. I had never met or seen anyone like him. I was smitten the moment i looked at him. I was studying at a library and he walked in. Anyways. I never spoke to him we never spoke to each other for a month. I noticed that he was watching me. Whenever I got up from my desk his eyes met mine and when It was long enough he'd look away.. blushing and looked like he was concentrating hard to focus on his work. When he looked at me... my heart started beating. lol
The next day he sat next to me on a computer. I thought it was cute that he was walking around with socks on haha. But he kept looking at me like he wanted to talk but couldn't bring himself to. Being next to him.. made me nervous very nervous. He was fidgeting too. He had that longing look. For awhile it seemed like he was trying everything to get my attention. Walking by me a lot, strutting, looking and looking away when I look. Whenever I walk by he always looked like he got hit by a bus. All red. I finally decided to approach him.. and i told him how attractive he was. I thought it was a stupid move because his reaction confused me. He said thanks and he was blushing and he rushed me out of the room. The next day it was like he was looking for me. Since then things have gotten very weird. Its like he wanted me to go up and talk to him. I remember him following me home once.. kind of checking me out. I dont get it why can't he just talk to me.
Things have gotten to the point where he started avoiding me. Like whenever he sees me he has this startled nervous scared look on his face and he kind of runs and hides?? I dont know what I had ever done to deserve this? I remember he would always walk by pretending to look for something but he would be looking at me and walk by.

I dont know if he likes me or he hates me..
I caught him staring at me for a long time and when I looked back he looked away quickly...

I dont know what to do.
He just treats me differently than everyone. He can be friendly and nice around everyone but when I walk in this changes. And i dont get why.
 

seafolly

Well-known member
I'm not sure anyone can give you a straight answer but it does sound like he's shy. Maybe that turned up a notch when you told him he was attractive - he knew the ball was in his court!

The way I see it is you can either ignore him, because honestly what you did took some guts and is no reason to dislike someone, or you can take the reins one more time and say something like, "Hey, do you feel like grabbing a coffee together on your next break?" and if he looks like he's going to bolt you can quickly say, "Sorry, I just think you're interesting, if you don't want to that's absolutely okay." That'll give him an exit of sorts. He just sounds awkward to me and doesn't know how to handle it even if he knows he'd be given the green light. Sometimes that's just not enough for a person! :)

(or completely reword what I said but you get the gist)
 

harlseq

Well-known member
Your story sounds very familiar... I completely empathize with the guy. If you ignore him he will probably never work up the courage to talk to you and it will just become awkward after a while. If you want to get to know him you will have to be the one to initiate and constantly reinforce any kind of courtship or flirting.
 

Mr.Moon

Well-known member
I gotta say, me being a guy, I've been in the guys position before when I was in HS. Her name was Rachel, but yeah, I couldn't ever get up enough courage to really open my mouth and talk to her or ask her out even though I knew she was single, but since she also didn't say much to me I felt as if I was invisible to her. Even though thinking back, I know that was just an excuse I made for myself..

I tell ya.. some people are to shy that they won't ask a person out even if they really like them.. Like what happened to me, I regret it to cause she was a really nice gal.
I surely say you should give it a shot and talk to him before either one of you regret it like I did.

Hope I helped a little.
 
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