Should I date this guy??

FriendlyShadow

Well-known member
Okay, well this is kind of a personal topic for me to talk about... although I can pretty much expect what everyone's answers will be to this question. So my brother has a brother (whom I get the feeling that he likes me because I've been told that he sometimes stares at me.) I think his brother is about the same age as me, if not slightly older. To be honest, I don't feel any sort of connection with him at all when I talk to him. All my life I've always been thinking that I could possibly be an aromantic/asexual person and that might be the reason why I find it hard to get close with someone.

Now, I'm not saying this is 100% true, but it just could be one of the possibilities. This guy and I have a couple of things in common (social awkwardness for example,) but he's not exactly what I'm looking for when it comes to finding a potential partner. I sometimes feel compelled to agree with people who keep insisting that I should date him. It just puts way to much pressure and stress on me to be honest. I mean, sure, this guy does somewhat share a few of my personality traits/interests, but it doesn't mean that there has to be a deep connection going on between us because of that. I just don't really understand why I have to force myself to become romantically involved with someone whom I only view as nothing more than a friend. An aquaintance actually.

I know that a lot of you will expect me to make corny statements like "He's a nice guy and all but..." "It's not him, it's me." and yes, I do understand that these phrases like these are overused and unnerving. I try my best to avoid saying these things while talking to someone. Let me also note that I've never made any hints/romantic gestures indicating that I'm interested in him. I just feel that everytime I'm around a guy or that someone mentions to me that a guy is checking me out, I should make myself become interested in them too. Maybe it's because people know that I've been alone for most of my life and they think that if were in a relationship now, I'd feel better about myself. I just feel like I'm not able to make any decisions for myself because everyone's making them for me. When I say that I'm not interested in someone, it just means that I'm not interested. I don't have to make myself fall in love with every guy that I'll meet in this world. Right now, I'm pretty much stuck in a difficult situation and I don't know how to get out of it... :/
 
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coolbeans82

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Okay, well this is kind of a personal topic for me to talk about... although I can pretty much expect what everyone's answers will be to this question. So my brother has a brother (whom I get the feeling that he likes me because I've been told that he sometimes stares at me.) I think his brother is about the same age as me, if not slightly older. To be honest, I don't feel any sort of connection with him at all when I talk to him. All my life I've always been thinking that I could possibly be an aromantic/asexual person and that might be the reason why I find it hard to get close with someone.

Now, I'm not saying this is 100% true, but it just could be one of the possibilities. This guy and I have a couple of things in common (social awkwardness for example,) but he's not exactly what I'm looking for when it comes to finding a potential partner. I sometimes feel compelled to agree with people who keep insisting that I should date him. It just puts way to much pressure and stress on me to be honest. I mean, sure, this guy does somewhat share a few of my personality traits/interests, but it doesn't mean that there has to be a deep connection going on between us because of that. I just don't really understand why I have to force myself to become romantically involved with someone whom I only view as nothing more than a friend. An aquaintance actually.

I know that a lot of you will expect me to make corny statements like "He's a nice guy and all but..." "It's not him, it's me." and yes, I do understand that these phrases like these are overused and unnerving. I try my best to avoid saying these things while talking to someone. Let me also note that I've never made any hints/romantic gestures indicating that I'm interested in him. I just feel that everytime I'm around a guy or that someone mentions to me that a guy is checking me out, I should make myself become interested in them too. Maybe it's because people know that I've been alone for most of my life and they think that if were in a relationship now, I'd feel better about myself. I just feel like I'm not able to make any decisions for myself because everyone's making them for me. When I say that I'm not interested in someone, it just means that I'm not interested. I don't have to make myself fall in love with every guy that I'll meet in this world. Right now, I'm pretty much stuck in a difficult situation and I don't know how to get out of it... :/
Well if you don't want to dont .people shouldnt be forcing you or pressuring you on any level like that

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