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Just tell him the truth matter of factly and try not to act ashamed about it even if you are. Most likely it'll just make him feel special, if not it's better to find out now, and if he starts to feel you're hiding things that'll ruin things fast.

For me it's none of those things. I think it boils down to my status quo life adaptations being less intolerable than the kind of suffering I'd have to go through to fix the parts of my social anxiety I haven't fixed yet -- the parts that would allow me a normal career, love and realer...

Hang in there. Higher heights always seem to come with deeper depths, unfortunately. It's so perplexing when someone says nothing is wrong but they don't want to be in a relationship anymore. Been there, or similar anyway. She might change her mind repeatedly back and forth so be prepared for...

Wow, that's a lot of life change for under 11 months, congrats! It's good to be reminded that everything can change and come together really fast in a good way.

The last few weeks have been the coldest time of the year with no end to that in sight, and I'm self-employed, so... no. I'm looking forward to whenever actual spring weather decides to get here.

I last moved 12 years ago and have never had to deal with a traumatic death. I hope the universe takes you out of extreme difficulty mode soon.

Everyone's here, but somehow we've been thrown into the future and are living in a year they haven't reached yet.

Sent out 5 Christmas cards this year, received 6. Probably a record on both counts. I guess the holiday season has been growing on me over the years, probably due to having more friends to share it with, even if most of them are thousands of miles away. My first experiment with crowdfunding has...

I'm fragile in some ways and strong in others. I probably wouldn't last a day at your job, though. Remember that being unable to handle one thing doesn't mean you can't handle all things.

So, I did my apparently-now-annual early October long distance trip. I was too anxious to digest properly for a week before it. Relieved when departure day finally arrived. 1300 miles of driving was grueling, but much like last year the travel days and all the stops along the routes were more...

Fortunately fire season ended as abruptly as it began. I finished the first season of my new series 253 Mathilde, and put together a new trailer: 7 episodes in 3 months, whew. I'm not quite sure how I feel about it because it's hard to be objective when I've listened to each episode dozens of...

It's that time of year again: the temperatures are triple digit, the skies are gray, it smells like a campfire everywhere, my windshield has specs of ash, and my parents are ready to evacuate (though it's only a recommendation and not mandatory for them yet). Now I spend the next week or two...

Facebook helps me keep in touch with a few people and stay more informed about their lives and vice versa. I haven't used the others (well technically I've used twitter but only with a business account and gave up on that). For actually getting to know new people I needed forums, but hardly...

My self-esteem isn't low, so I don't disbelieve them. My problem is figuring out what to say or do in response. Since I'm not close to people, they always come from people I'm not close to, and a compliment is often an invitation to become closer. So I feel like I always fumble that and try to...

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Went on my first date in 5 years on Saturday. I guess it was better than the last one, by default. I'd been talking with this woman on the dating site I've been on for 7 years, and she was the first to respond to me in all that time who actually lives very nearby (neighboring town). I ended up...

I think variety is the most important thing. Try to go a few different places even if they're 10 feet from where you usually go, and do a few different things even if they're tiny things.

Sometimes it's because of the huge life disruption and period of isolation while recovering or the general caution/avoidance it triggers. I've heard of people suddenly becoming much more anxious around people after they recover from a car accident that takes weeks to convalesce. But there are...

Just because something can cause PTSD doesn't mean that's the only thing it'll cause, or that it will necessarily cause that and not something else. There are people who develop social anxiety from such experiences.

Bullying is probably the most common for those who develop social anxiety at adolescence. Could also be child abuse, parental friction/divorce, an injury, a move to a new city/country, any number of other traumas. Generally some sort of traumatic event or period for most people, though, from...