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I think it's just a matter of being online and then a couple people join the voice chat like it's no big deal and then someone says hi and there it is.

I was hoping people would use it for voice chats, but it still hasn't happened.

Trust me, I tried that. I explained exactly what I meant to say, but when you're as insecure as she is, and when you're in such denial of your insecurities that you refuse to talk about it and get past it, it's hard to mend things. It's been months and she's still hurt by a dumb misunderstanding.

I think people with anxiety/introverts have a tendency to do this because social interactions are exhausting. It's not necessarily because the other person's become boring or uninteresting to us, but because prolonged interaction is draining. At least this seems to be the case with me. The...

In my case, I think it's because my mind is so fast that it trips over itself, and I end up saying something that I didn't mean at all because there's too many words being thrown around in there. The only thing you can do is own up to it, say you're sorry, and if they decide to be assholes, then...

This reminds me of myself a few months back. I was hanging out with a couple of friends (one of them being a girl), and she was talking about how she goes out with friends and guys approach her, etc. Mind you, she's a bit overweight and very insecure about her appearance. I wanted to say "of...

Probably CBT.

We should all move to wherever lifesnotfair is from and we'd all just hang out.

It's just another day. Take yourself out on a date and do something you enjoy.

It doesn't change overnight. It's a process. It's why so many people become discouraged. Keep at it, and eventually it'll become louder than the old processes.

That's awesome, dude. I think you've touched on an important 'fix': getting out of your own head. Once you do that, you stop focusing on your internal self-destructive dialogue, and focus on what actually matters.

But what happened, exactly, to make you feel this way? What events took place in your life that were very unfair to you despite your best efforts?

What happened throughout the course of your life to make you reach this conclusion?

Maybe it would be a good idea to embrace your shyness instead of becoming frustrated about it. Some people are more shy (shyer?) than others, some people are more introverted as well. Embrace it, and work on becoming more comfortable in situations that make you feel shy through exposure. If you...

I like this type of post, because it's basically people saying "with hard work, it's possible to have it easier".

Therapy.

If they don't reply, try again, or visit their offices (or look for other places that use CBT).

You need practice. Adventure Time said it best: sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something. If you get discouraged after the first try, then it's almost impossible to get better.

I didn't understand this part: However, my comment still stands: you're never gonna stop feeling anxious when it comes to new things. As Russ Harris put it in one of his books: the act of confidence comes first, and the feeling of confidence comes later.

If you're going to wait until you're not anxious, then you'll never do anything.