Rejection triggers my social anxiety

Hero

Well-known member
Hi, has anyone else encountered this? I feel today I made a breakthrough in what exactly causes my SA.

I feel my moods are very up and down, I feel like a yo-yo. When I'm up. I feel happy, wanted, acceptance. When I feel down, I feel depressed, drained and social anxious. I was alone all day at work, and I felt numb and severely depressed.

My social anxiety doesn't seem to be like other people's. I've heard that some of you are too anxious to leave the house, or too wary giving eye contact. I find I can do these sorts of things very easily (not when I was young.)

I find if I feel lonely, or if someone humiliates me, ignores or rejects me in a social way, my social anxiety kicks off. It's almost like a trigger. Bang! My mood switches. I will hot, heavy and tired if I'm around people. I will want to crawl in a hole and die. I will lose my voice, and my brain will fill up with negative confusing thoughts. It becomes a nightmare. This happened at a recent party, and I felt everyone was watching me and thinking I'm weird.

But if I feel wanted, if people treat me with respect and talk to me (despite my social awkwardness) I will feel the symptoms less and less.

Can anyone relate to me?
 
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mikebird

Banned
Yep. That's me.

I never had trouble being bullied or mocked...

Getting out and about is OK - I thought I might be agoraphobic after living alone, but no.

It's rejection that hurts. I don't reject anyone. I'm friendly. I get the cold shoulder from people who know me, or don't! I can't understand it. I have a deep misunderstanding of how people treat me. The best idea I can think of is because I am rude, did them physical harm, or I'm ugly... I am none of those..

It's more about work - not being accepted any longer than a few weeks at work, or, these days can't even maintain a friendship or girlfriend like I used to.

What's happened? No idea. Difficult to face up to.

Negative person. I wonder why. Because that's what people have done to me
 

carecrab

Well-known member
Hi, has anyone else encountered this? I feel today I made a breakthrough in what exactly causes my SA.

I feel my moods are very up and down, I feel like a yo-yo. When I'm up. I feel happy, wanted, acceptance. When I feel down, I feel depressed, drained and social anxious. I was alone all day at work, and I felt numb and severely depressed.

My social anxiety doesn't seem to be like other people's. I've heard that some of you are too anxious to leave the house, or too wary giving eye contact. I find I can do these sorts of things very easily (not when I was young.)

I find if I feel lonely, or if someone humiliates me, ignores or rejects me in a social way, my social anxiety kicks off. It's almost like a trigger. Bang! My mood switches. I will hot, heavy and tired if I'm around people. I will want to crawl in a hole and die. I will lose my voice, and my brain will fill up with negative confusing thoughts. It becomes a nightmare. This happened at a recent party, and I felt everyone was watching me and thinking I'm weird.

But if I feel wanted, if people treat me with respect and talk to me (despite my social awkwardness) I will feel the symptoms less and less.

Can anyone relate to me?


i can completely relate to this.

some of the problems i see here like afraid to be in a place with a lot of people.. i can't understand that much, but this is my problem in a nutshell.

I can be pretty confident sometimes but my anxiety is easily triggered just like you described. and then i find it really hard to get rid of those negative thoughts. i don't know if it's because im too sensitive because even when somebody is joking about me (and i know it's a joke) i tend to go 'emo'.
 
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