Quick question

Okay, I guess this would be the place to put this. I'm not shy professionally, but around women, I definitely am. I was married, but after she cheated on me and divorced me, I had serious trust issues and haven't pursued a relationship in 10 years. Recently, I tried again, and she ended up having Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and basically annihilated any trust I had left. EXTREMELY vindictive for no reason. I am SO sick of being alone, but between my shyness and trust issues, I'm basically screwed, right? I mean, I see someone I would like, but then I think, "yeah, she'd just destroy you." I'm trying to go out and meet new friends, but I have a hard time getting close because I don't trust them. It's kind of a catch 22.

Hi, and welcome to the forum.

Sounds like we have a lot in common.

just take baby steps. When making friends you don't have to trust them in the beginning.. just be nice. The more you hang out with them.. then the more you can let them in.

Hi. Yes, that's what I'm trying to do. Lately, I've been invited to a few gatherings of friends and I've been trying to branch out, but I feel like I'm not really being myself, and I'm analyzing every word I say. Just frustrating. I've actually beat agoraphobia after 20 years, and you think it's going to be all wine and roses and tons of normalcy, but there's still a lot of work left. You start seeing other problems you have to fix.