PhantomPod
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I am supposed to be going on a pub crawl in the city this Saturday from 2pm - 10pm. 8 freakin' hours. With my co-workers. I'm going to die. This sounds well and fun, but really, I do not want to go and I'm trying to figure out a way to get out of it.
I am going to have a legit panic-attack. I can't do this. Why do I always get suckered into doing things I don't want to do? If other people don't want to do something they're just, "oh, no thanks. Have fun though!." But I'm never able to say that! Instead I'm always agreeing to things I don't really want to do, like, "oh sure, sounds great! I'm in!"
Plus, most of these people are really good friends with each other, so it's like they will probably be car pooling into the city with each other, whereas it's like, wtf am I going to do? How am I going to get into the city? I don't want to drive myself because this is a day consisting of drinking and obviously if I drank I wouldn't want to then drive myself home late at night. I'd have to get my parents to drive me in or something, I don't even know. I suppose I could get some courage and ask someone I work with if they could give me a ride, but yeah right, easier said than done.
All of these people are "cool kids." Like, they are honestly the people you knew of in high school who were super popular and had plenty of friends and were always going to house parties. No lie. Like, this isn't just me in my social anxiety head thinking that these people are just wayyy cooler than me than they really are. They are honestly these type of people and even now they always talk about their drinking festivities on the weekends.
Whereas I am shy and quiet, had zero friends in high school, managed to make it through college with practically zero friends, never went to a house party like that, not really a huge drinker or partier anyways etc etc etc.
I don't want to go and don't know how to tell them that I don't want to go. Plus, we got these funny shirts made saying that it was our pub crawl. I paid $10 for the shirt and the kid just gave it to me today, but I don't care, I still don't want to go.
Why is something which is supposed to be fun causing me so much anxiety!? Why is this thread so freakin' long!? Sorry, haha, but I had a lot to say about the situation. However, in conclusion, does anyone have any ideas on what I could say to get out of this? I actually have an appointment to bring my car into the shop Saturday morning, so I was thinking of saying that and that I wasn't sure when I would get my car back so I didn't know how I was going to get into the city. Maybe someone might offer me a ride then? But I don't know, even if I got a ride I just really don't want to go.
We're all just going to be meeting at one bar at 2pm and the kid who's organizing it sent out an email and said to let him know if we couldn't meet there, so they're not all standing around waiting for us.
HELP! Why do I freak out about things like this? Jeez.
I am going to have a legit panic-attack. I can't do this. Why do I always get suckered into doing things I don't want to do? If other people don't want to do something they're just, "oh, no thanks. Have fun though!." But I'm never able to say that! Instead I'm always agreeing to things I don't really want to do, like, "oh sure, sounds great! I'm in!"
Plus, most of these people are really good friends with each other, so it's like they will probably be car pooling into the city with each other, whereas it's like, wtf am I going to do? How am I going to get into the city? I don't want to drive myself because this is a day consisting of drinking and obviously if I drank I wouldn't want to then drive myself home late at night. I'd have to get my parents to drive me in or something, I don't even know. I suppose I could get some courage and ask someone I work with if they could give me a ride, but yeah right, easier said than done.
All of these people are "cool kids." Like, they are honestly the people you knew of in high school who were super popular and had plenty of friends and were always going to house parties. No lie. Like, this isn't just me in my social anxiety head thinking that these people are just wayyy cooler than me than they really are. They are honestly these type of people and even now they always talk about their drinking festivities on the weekends.
Whereas I am shy and quiet, had zero friends in high school, managed to make it through college with practically zero friends, never went to a house party like that, not really a huge drinker or partier anyways etc etc etc.
I don't want to go and don't know how to tell them that I don't want to go. Plus, we got these funny shirts made saying that it was our pub crawl. I paid $10 for the shirt and the kid just gave it to me today, but I don't care, I still don't want to go.
Why is something which is supposed to be fun causing me so much anxiety!? Why is this thread so freakin' long!? Sorry, haha, but I had a lot to say about the situation. However, in conclusion, does anyone have any ideas on what I could say to get out of this? I actually have an appointment to bring my car into the shop Saturday morning, so I was thinking of saying that and that I wasn't sure when I would get my car back so I didn't know how I was going to get into the city. Maybe someone might offer me a ride then? But I don't know, even if I got a ride I just really don't want to go.
We're all just going to be meeting at one bar at 2pm and the kid who's organizing it sent out an email and said to let him know if we couldn't meet there, so they're not all standing around waiting for us.
HELP! Why do I freak out about things like this? Jeez.
