online talking

One thing i have noticed from these boards is that, yes everyone here suffers from some degree of SA, we struggle to make friends, socialise and pretty much have to go through our worst nightmares everyday, but everyone here is totally normal.

i never thought people with SP were not normal, but many people believe that we act totally differently.

i mean...yes we do, because we cannot, or find it hard to, talk to people and generally socialise, yet on the net we can talk, and argue to the highest extent. we have no problem being assertive online.

Do any of you find that you have online friends, ones that you have met on forums, either this one, or music ones..or any of your interests?
because i find that i can easily communicate with others over the internet. i doubt their honesty and believe that they are getting something out of the "friendship" for themselves, but thats the way i see things. it doesnt stop me talking to them however.

i just wondered if thats how the majority of you felt , or whether some of you even find your SA continues into the virtual world.

yeh.
im not bothered about paedophiles or any og that. i just get scared that they are laughing at me.

i can't socialize on the internet, when i first got internet i used napster and i approached people on random a lot and i had a lot of fun conversations. but now i'm too self consious. i can talk to people i know in real life better online and sometimes make jokes and have fun but that's it for the most part.

i think 2 years of day time therapy caused this (people had different problems then me and i was never told about SA but they did diagnozed me for SA, what the hell!?), i had too look it up on the internet a year later to find out it is a common problem and that there is a proven working therapy for it wich is not day therapy! wich can even make it worse, fucking retards. sorry, it's just those stupid therapist that don't know what their doing. i thought it then and now it has been confirmed once again.
they make you think and analyze about yourself alot. before the therapy i could also have a few drinks and i would loosen up and start to talk like sa was a stranger.

and, i'm not saying anythings is their fault but all i've seen is those 2 years is nothing. i mean, i haven't seen anyone else make progress eighter. umm wel nice therapy my ass, what are they thinking experiencing this themselfs year after year...

sorry for the rant. i felt like it

no matter. its interesting to read.
ive never had any treatment, or in fact been diagnosed, but i appear to suffer all the symptoms but im doing my best to talk to my parents to arrange a consulatation.
do you think its worth it? or..well it sounds to me that youve been caused more angst because of it...

I've made some cool friends on some chat sites and some of them didn't even believe that I had SP because i came across as very confident...even a little brash some said...lol, true enough

thats cool
i have a number of friends over the net. the only problem comes when they want to meet me....

Yes, I have some very good friends who I will generally talk to daily. Mostly they are friendships about sharing culture, music and design with each other. I've known these people for a minimum of two years and one for coming up to seven. And this is without showing a single photo of me. I've only recently started discussing the SP with one, but I plan to talk about it with the others soon.

Just try to see online chatting as a bit of fun I guess. It can be a great outlet for emotion, and it's nice to have someone who is always there to divert attention away from your worries.

My social anxiety does extend itself to the virtual world. As a matter of fact this is my first post and its already giving me a headache I might have something to say but it gets pretty difficult to put it in words...its like my mind goes blank, I get overwhelmed and just give up.

Im usually a very expressive person, but SA doesn't get any easier online, at least with people I don't know well.

I already know whats going on in my head, and how this is just one of those irrational thoughts I have to work on. I'm trying to do my best and not take myself to seriously...maybe in time I can even log on and use my username 8O :wink:

Anyway thanks for reading and take care.

i'v been trying to agree with what your saying for a while now Fredscarecrow.

i think the truth is i see myself as having little value ... just because of my sp problem. So all the rest of me that has whatever qualities and that, thats great, but im not quite a full person, because of sp. This is so irrational and stupid, im realising that now.

heaps of people, that dont have sp, are shy and stuff, that dosnt make them not a worthy person though yer ?

i think i understand..if i get the wrong idea though im sorry...

we're all full people..we just dont see that. i, myself believe that im not as 'important' or as 'special' as other people. i look at people in the street and think 'why the hell can't i be like them, am i really asking that much?' but in the end i am me, and theres nothing i can do about that.

So long as you realise what your problem is, then your half way to solving it..or so the saying goes. im not sure its totally accurate, but someday, im sure, all of us on here will become the people we dream of.

I found writing my personal qualities down a big help. Then I sat and thought about what I saw in other people that would make me want to be them and not myself...thankfully, I no longer feel that way but I used to and by doing what I did I realised i'm just as worthy as the next person. I hope some day you all come to realise that you are too.

I found writing my personal qualities down a big help

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thanks LilMissTragic i think ill do that sounds like it'l be fun

I'm too chicken to put myself out there online :lol:

i know it might be a shit idea, but why not create a social phobia teamspeak server.

Buy a shitty headphone mic and off ya go, free software and you can chat to whoever you want.

i'm not much for chitchat and i am crap at conversation but i use it all the time for gaming... infact i couldn't play without it on some games... you get used to it.

anyway shit idea but atleast it is an idea.

Nez

nezzy said:

i know it might be a shit idea, but why not create a social phobia teamspeak server.

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We tried this a while back with a few peeps off MH chat and SAUK

trouble is everyone was to shy to talk :S

good that you suggested things though

Hey I think its sooooo much easier being myself online.
I honestly dont know what I would do without internet.

Hey guys , can you help me?
Where do you guys chat?

Neezy, dont put your ideas down. I thought it was quite a good one, i'm willing to talk on mic...I'll probably be talking to myself but hey, i could probably rabbit on and on and bore everyone..lol. Problem is, i dont know how to go about it.