My feelings

recluse

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My feelings right now;

Being in the company of people such as during lunch break at work makes me uncomfortable, i'd rather be alone. Being in the company of others gives me anxious feelings through my body such as shallow breathing, aching chest, clammy hands and feet, dizziness, racing thoughts. Being in social situations is more trouble for me than it's worth.

Tomorrow (Friday) we finish work for the Christmas, most of my workmates are going drinking but i'm not in the mood (they probably won't notice i'm not with them anyway)

Another year has almost come to an end so fast and i feel i have achieved nothing.

All young people want to do is get wasted on drink/drugs, and i feel there is more to life than doing these things.
 

EveM

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yeah I know what you mean. When I'm around most people, it really tires me out because it feels like you have to make conversation, normally I don't mind that, but I noticed that some people I've known for a while seem to think there's something wrong with you if you're not talking all the time. I like being around my family because it's just normal to be around them and not constantly making conversation. Agree?

I totally agree with the whole more to life than drink & drugs thing.. it seems like nowadays everyone goes clubbing with their "mates" lol, I hate that word! But I don't really see myself ever going to a club, doesn't appeal at all.

p.s you must have achieved something good this year! I'm sure you can think of something. I've been doing nothing for the last 6 months, at least you've been working and earning money, yeah :)
 

recluse

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EveM said:
yeah I know what you mean. When I'm around most people, it really tires me out because it feels like you have to make conversation, normally I don't mind that, but I noticed that some people I've known for a while seem to think there's something wrong with you if you're not talking all the time. I like being around my family because it's just normal to be around them and not constantly making conversation. Agree?

I totally agree with the whole more to life than drink & drugs thing.. it seems like nowadays everyone goes clubbing with their "mates" lol, I hate that word! But I don't really see myself ever going to a club, doesn't appeal at all.

p.s you must have achieved something good this year! I'm sure you can think of something. I've been doing nothing for the last 6 months, at least you've been working and earning money, yeah :)

I totally agree with what you said about being around your family, i feel ok with my parents but not my sister and gran for some reason. I think it's because i don't expect my parents to judge me on the fact that i am the way i am.

I do drink at home in moderation but the thought of going out drinking scares me. I have been to a club on a few occasions only because my workmates dragged me out drinking and i actually quite enjoyed it purely because i was drunk, but i still feel quite strange in places like that as if i don't belong there. Most young peoples lives revolve around drinking excessively here, even girls drink a lot. I just can't find the appeal in fighting my way through crowds of people to be served at the bar.

Well when i said that i hadn't achieved anything i think what i meant was that i still suffer from this social phobia, and working is all i've done really.
 

PhantomPod

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Oh man, I definitely know what you mean. Even when I get a thought in my head and I want to try and contribute to the conversation, my heart starts pounding, my legs get all tingly and I can barely feel them, and my breathing gets shallow. All leaving me almost physically unable to actually speak up and say what I want to say. The few times where I actually have the guts to speak up regardless of all of these feelings, my voice is all shaky and stuttery!

I used to have the same feelings at lunch breaks at work too (don't have them any longer because I don't have a job!). If I was by myself in the break room I felt fine, but as soon as someone else walked in a felt anxious, insecure, etc.

I also agree with the family thing. I feel much more comfortable when I'm just with my family, and although I don't feel the need to keep a conversation going all the time, talking with them almost just comes easily!

And I also agree with the whole idea that a fun time for young people seems to always involved drinking and/or drugs. I drink occasionally, but I'm not into drugs. I've been to clubs before (while in Europe where it was actually legal) and I have had a good time, and then I've been to a couple here in America (not so legal) and they weren't very fun. I don't mind sitting around having a few drinks while playing a card game or something, but the idea of going out clubbing and drinking doesn't seem very appealing to me.
 
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