Hi there, and welcome to the forum.
I was a little surprised seeing you posted on my profile, considering I don't know you lol. Anyway, I don't think you're a loser if you don't have any friends...not all of us are lucky enough to have friends and that's just something we have to work on and try to overcome. Easier said than done, I know. As for you and you're husband's friends, well maybe interact a little more with them, after a period of time you'll get used to them and won't feel as overwhelmed as when you first got to know them.
I don't really know what to answer lol, this is all I've got for you. Best of luck.