Is he just playing me?

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a week now. We're both 16 and we started talking Dec.21 and he asked me out the 26th. We've known each other long before this.. We hungout like all last week and on Tues Dec.30 was his birthday. We hungout that night and everything was great just like normal. The next day he never texted me and he usually texts me sometime throughout the day. So I texted him and called him. No answer. I texted him Happy New Year. Still no answer. I waited all day to see if he answered. Nothing. Called him again and no answer. I then texted him saying I'm done seeing if he would reply. Again nothing. I texted asking if he's ok and if I did something and he finally texted back 2 hrs later saying he just got off work. I replied back "omg your alive" and he said "yeah for now" and I was like what do you mean and he said well you said you were done but I gtg my boss needs me. I said I wa just kidding and I apologized. I asked if we could talk later and he never replied..
I need your opinion about the situation and if I should break up with him or if this is his way of saying he's done with me? It's killing me. I hate just being left high and dry. This isn't the first time it's happened to me and is my worst nightmare. Plz help. Thanks

jerahme04 said:

You're 16 calm down.. he is still a child and yes is probably playing games because he is 16.. sorry I know it hurts but it's not like your husband of ten years and father of both your kids left you at the age of 40. Just be an adult about it, shrug it off and move on to the next. You have your whole life ahead of you don't get bogged down by menial things.

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I'm sure you mean well by this but it comes across as condescending. I dislike how my culture treats young people - a 16-year-old may legally be a "child" but 16 is clearly much more developed than a child. The OP has a right to her feelings regarding her experiences - going through these things and learning from them is a part of growing up. Dating someone isn't "menial," regardless if she's 16 or 35. It may not be a "serious" relationship (that's up to her) but it is important to her.

To the OP, it sounds like you overreacted a bit - maybe he was just at work and couldn't text you until later. It's odd that he won't talk to you, though. Maybe try calling him once more and if he doesn't respond soon, assume it's over and begin the process of moving on. I know how bad it feels - I hope you feel better soon.

Be calm and indifferent towards him, let him come to you. As much as you would like to hear something from him, don't stress him out because this might make him avoid you.

Instead just play cool and act like nothing is wrong and you will see how he will change this behavior and if he still does nothing, then it is time to let it go. Move on with your life, you are young and you will find your love.

Take care!

You should wait until you talk to him face to face. Meaning easily gets lost through texting.

He's being immature. Don't waste time on immaturity.

I'd wait until your 23 to date save money now I wish I did...

He is a ****. I work in a place were I cant answer my phone when working but I can on my breaks. I know when I have had a girlfriend we always answered each others calls and texts within a reasonable time even when we fighting. The time frame you described is not reasonable. I hate to say but I think he is lying to you. But even if he is not that is still no way to treat your significant other. Dump his ***! Don't get used and abused. I wish you the best sunshine keep your head up your to good for anyone to treat you like that.

I wouldn't like being done that way either. My best idea at the present time would be to just back off and let him make the next move. He'll either make a move to call/text/whatever or... he won't. You said he said he was at work and busy, could his job really have him legitimately busy/stressed and he really ain't had time to talk? Something to think about before making a decision.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I ended up going to his house and it didn't go well. I knocked on the door and surprisingly he answered it. I asked if he was busy and could talk and he said yes he was busy and didn't want to talk about it and slammed the door in my face. After that I went home and cried my eyes out. I got on my snapchat and a girl my friends with on snapchat had him as one of her snapchat stories. Now I know why he was "busy" and couldn't talk. But thanks again for all your kind words and thoughts it helped me believe that people actually care even if they don't know you at all.