In-laws... what the ****?!

My other half (of 4 years) just got a call from his mother. She literally spent the whole call quizzing him on what I was doing with my life.

"Did she find a job?"
"Does she still do roller derby?"
"Can't she do a course?"
"She should do a course, the job center will help her find one. Your uncle is doing a course."

I'm so ****ing sick of that family judging me. I haven't worked in years so I'm after applying for a service that helps people with mental health issues find jobs. I won't hear back from them until july though. But i can't tell her that.

As for roller derby, I'm having massive money problems so can't afford to pay for it or travel down there until after August. I wish I could skate, but I just don't have the money!

The course is what makes me feel shit. I did a course for a few days, had a massive anxiety attack (brought on by an intimidating girl and Geodon withdrawal), and left. I hate myself for it, but I just couldn't handle it.

My in-laws think I'm a lazy useless piece of shit and it's making it so hard for me to not lash out at them. My boyfriend tries explaining my situation in a way that makes me look good, but he'd never call them out on their shit.


Sorry, needed to rant.

I graduated college recently, and pretty much any person I see, whether it is my parents, other relatives, co-workers, or relatives of my girlfriend, they all ask me roughly the same thing. What I studied, what job it qualifies me for, and when I am going to get one. While I hate being asked, it's not because it feels judge-y but because I don't have a good answer to any of them. I feel what they want to hear is "yes! I got a $10,000,000,000,000 a year job that gives me 8 months vacation!" when the reality is I haven't started my resume, am not qualified for anything, and not sure what state to even start looking in. I know a lot of times when people ask they are being polite, or are curious or care about me and want to know what I'm doing. I don't know your situation or your in-laws, but it would be pretty shitty for them to ask for any reason other than care for their son, and via proxy his girlfriends well being.

vj288 said:

I graduated college recently, and pretty much any person I see, whether it is my parents, other relatives, co-workers, or relatives of my girlfriend, they all ask me roughly the same thing. What I studied, what job it qualifies me for, and when I am going to get one. While I hate being asked, it's not because it feels judge-y but because I don't have a good answer to any of them. I feel what they want to hear is "yes! I got a $10,000,000,000,000 a year job that gives me 8 months vacation!" when the reality is I haven't started my resume, am not qualified for anything, and not sure what state to even start looking in. I know a lot of times when people ask they are being polite, or are curious or care about me and want to know what I'm doing. I don't know your situation or your in-laws, but it would be pretty shitty for them to ask for any reason other than care for their son, and via proxy his girlfriends well being.

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I hate when people ask what i do etc., so i know what you mean. They're usually just trying to make conversation but there's always the odd person who's just judging you.